This is the reason you should be scared of committing to someone not dedicated to any vision or their personal development. No person will commit to another person more than they are committed to their own personal growth.Just because someone has potential in life does not mean you are the one to bring it out.
If someone can abandon their development program because the process is uncomfortable, they can abandon you at a critical moment. You shall take that as a serious red flag, "not a proceed-with-caution sign".
If someone can be emotionally disconnected from their calling from God, they can enter a marriage and never be emotionally available for you and the kids.
Deuteronomy 6:4-5
[4]"Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one!
[5]You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.
By now, you should know that energy is a major currency in life. Check where a person is channelling most of their energy to, that should give you some clues. If someone's energy is towards alcohol or chasing ladies instead of serving God, take that as free information for decision-making.
If a person cannot offer themselves to God, they will have challenges to commit themselves to others and even to their cause.
If they cannot give this attention to God, chances are they will not give it to you. You will carry the load alone. Marriage is enjoyable when all parties are pulling together. Once one of them is distracted, the load becomes unbearable for the one emotionally available.
If they are where they are because of circumstances give them time, marriage shall not be an escape route for such eventualities.
In short, I am saying, don't ignore the road signs. Some penalties are hefty.
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