When I worked as a receptionist for a mining company a few years ago, the girl training me had a saying that struck me...something like "go easy" or "go gently" whenever I told her I had to attend an appointment.
I'm making myself laugh as I write this to you - it was so 'striking' that I've forgotten the actual words said.
Well done Janet - you muppet.
Anyway.
I wanted to write this post for anyone out there feeling bad about not being able to read and respond to the blogs of people they follow/like/care about. Ellie - I'm mostly looking at you here my love. And someone else very special who I won't mention because they're keeping a low profile right now and I respect that.
I want you both to know it's okay to not be able to read and respond to every single blogger/blog post.
I know for myself, when I am in a state (depression is an insidious bastard), I feel the weight of the world on me and I feel so empty and so forlorn that I can't read anything let alone type a response to it. Lately I've been 'responding' to messages from my friends via text or facebook message with a heart. Just that.
A little red or pink heart which I hope they'll understand is my way of saying "Yes I see you, my friend - I just don't have it in me to respond right now but I haven't forgotten you, I'm not ignoring you and what you have to say or share is VERY important - I just can't respond."
On the other side of that, when I post a blog - I don't expect a response. I celebrate and cherish the responses I do get - but I'm not going to take it personally or feel it was rude of people not to respond to something I've put out there. I think all decent people/writers/bloggers will understand that we are all busy. We all work really hard. We all only have 24 hours in a day and we do the best we can to manage those hours in the best ways we know how. Sometimes - and this can last months or maybe even years (let's hope it doesn't), someone suffering can't respond.
They'd love to, they just can't.
People who care about you get that. We really do 
Don't take on the guilt of not being able to read and respond to everything.
Take care of you. Take care of your mental and physical health. Do what you need to do to get through each day and go gently as you do.
Be gentle with yourself.
I hope you'll be okay.
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