Things to chill out about include:
1. The handful of things that aren't going right – When things don't go according to plan, or you're hit with things that are hard to cope with, it can help if we are thankful for what is going well. If you can, try being thankful for the things you have escaped.
2. Diagnosing and putting a label on everyone and everything – Sometimes it is helpful to take a step back, and decide to take people and things as they are. A lot of the time, the label doesn't help. You still have to deal with the stress it all creates.
3. Worrying about what other people think – There will always be someone who disagrees with you. But that is their issue (and their problem), not yours. You need to give yourself the freedom to live your own life.
4. Wasting time and energy on the wrong people – You can tie yourself in knots trying to please people you will never be pleased. Move on from those people, and invest your time, love and energy in those who will be there for you, make you smile, and love you back.
5. Hanging onto grudges and offenses – This is not the same as processing trauma. That needs to be done; trauma shouldn't be repressed. This refers more to the minor annoyance and slights that occur along the way, and are just a part of life. Tear up the list of grudges; don't keep reviewing them. You haven't got the time to waste on small stuff like this. Honestly, it's not worth the emotional investment.
6. Allowing disagreements and misunderstanding to snowball into something huge – Don't allow infrequent upsets, or hurtful interactions to cause you to forget about the good times you have shared. The humour, and the laughter, the love and the support. We all act out of character, and hurt others, at times.
7. Making mistakes, and getting it wrong. This part of being human, and it happens to us all. Forgive yourself, resolve to change … and then move on.
"You live most of your life inside your head. Make sure it's a beautiful place."
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