Never ask for more than someone can give
Never ask for more from someone than they can give you in return, and be grateful for every gift they can share. This is probably one of the most difficult lessons there is in life to learn because it requires an open and receiving heart instead of wants or needs by our own ego and personality.
When someone tells you this is all I can take in, and it is not the answer you would like to hear, well I can tell you, this is trying on your own inner triggers and ego as well. When two people differ in the way they are achieving, learning, and dealing with life's lessons it can be in an easy and balancing way, or it can cause arguments, and issues that have to be dealt with in regard to our own inner emotional wounds and inner child healing moments.
How can I make this clear and shed some clarity in order to bring some order in a chaotic moment with many layers, upon layers in a trial within our own relationship at the moment and old insecurities are coming to the surface when there is asked more than there is to give back to in return. This is a moment in any kind of relationship that will show how we are able to deal with it when the need is not met.
For that is what is happening and most of the time on both sides. If your partner is in trouble, you want to help in any way you can, at least that is what I love to do. If it means can I let go, can I let go of control, of my need for him in what I might think is the best, then therein lies the challenge. Actually, we both were challenged big time yesterday when this issue came up.
Both are taking this challenge in our own unique way, as we always have been. We know we are connected, and the differences have always been accepted and loved. Yet when it comes to a challenge that has to do with Health and Healing, we seem to walk different paths that easily are going sideways if we do not pay attention.
All we need is an affirmation, and when challenged this is sometimes hard to do when emotions are getting into turmoil, old anger and sorrow are coming to the surface to be addressed. It is more difficult to see with clarity and some kind of detachment in order to work through the process at hand.
Within each of us, give it space and respect. Allowing it to be and going through all the phases as the storm of emotions requires. Just by allowing it to come out into the open, it will shed some light on the real issue at hand. Allowing also to take time, for each of us is walking this process at our own pace.
Realizing we are different from others' needs at times creates a vortex of emotions until we get clarity and the ability to identify the different energies of anger and sorrow that are surfacing within each of us. Is it just about boundaries, or is it about acceptance as well? If I want to be met in the need of affirmation, I am asking sometimes too much from my Love.
In his own way, he shows his love and caring, and our ways may differ, but our Love is not. It asks a lot at times when we are going through the same process to keep the focus on how we can complement each other instead of confirming our differences.
Yet this is exactly what needs to be healed and when emotions are being stirred. Crossing the line by asking something which cannot be met by the other is crossing boundaries and is met by resistance as well as triggering old emotional elements that might be lingering and connected with this process of healing, balancing, and coming to an understanding within by love, compassion, and kindness for the other as well as myself.
Nothing a good talk can prevent us from clearing up and validating each other again when the storms of emotions have passed and the center is found again within, or maybe because we are meeting each other in the eye of the storm we can see clearly now the identity of each other as being complementary and assisting the journey our souls have been taking in this lifetime together.
To meet all challenges from both angles we represent as well the difference to be met and come to full alignment within each of us, cause the only true healing comes through our Love for each other on so many levels. To meet each other in the center of our own inner balanced self, we are whole again. And that is our soul's agreement. Love is the only medicine; it is all about Love as the Healer and Life-giver.
And so, it will be done.
High Self @RheaDopmeijer (c)
Heartfelt Messages, 12-9-2015
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