"No woman wants a feminine man, and no man wants a masculine woman…" and go…
I read something this morning that got me thinking about how men and women have changed so drastically even in my lifetime. I am not talking sexuality: not gay, straight, bisexual or any other sexuality or gender we can identify by these days; I am talking feminine and masculine and how blurred the lines have got. I am not judging. I am not justifying. I am simply asking the question – who wants a masculine woman or a feminine man – and we are talking energy here.
Both masculine and feminine energy have their strengths and weaknesses. Both have their place. But I guess we must define what is masculine and what is feminine – I think as a society we tend to identify roles rather than energetic nuances and we feel the feminine is soft, quiet and weaker and masculine is about strength, taking the lead and power.
Now then, I come from a long line of "strong" women so I can tell you from experience the female or the feminine is way more than this stereotypical viewpoint. I have also identified over the years male or masculine energy that is incredibly gentle and quiet but so powerful it is breath-taking.
Are masculine and feminine energies simply two halves of the whole? Are they actually a blend of all that is? In that I guess I am asking, that if both are part of one, are they only at their greatest strength when working together, as one? Are they only working at their highest energetic potential when combined? Or, if they each hold what the other has, aren't they both exactly the same? Lots of thoughts dripping out of my mind there, like long slow water droplets dripping from a tap, and I am not sure at this stage whether I have only questions and no answers, or whether in those questions I have already answered what I was originally thinking…. who wants a masculine woman or a feminine man?
As a woman carrying my feminine energy, I want a man to be a man, meeting my energy with his. I don't want a man to back away energetically when I step into my strengths, and nor do I want his energy to dominate mine. I want him to meet me where I am and me him. I don't want a man who has taken on so much of the feminine that he can no longer give me his strength and power and only his vulnerability and quiet. I don't want a man whose feminine energy has stripped him of his ability to bring power and 'bigness' and courage and boldness.
I want a man… well like me…
I am very much the feminine in a societal perspective. I like to be treated like a woman, have a man hold doors open, pour me a drink before his own, hold my hand when I am on uneven ground, be protected by size and strength (energetically speaking). But, I also want a man to respect when I need to step up and be the protector and strength, when I have to make decisions, take the lead, and be the power in the relationship. Is that too much to ask or is that simply two people sharing their energy appropriately.
I wonder if you feel that to be feminine you must make a choice; being dominant or submissive and to be masculine, you have to be submissive or dominant? Does being a female mean you are automatically seen as feminine and as a male are you seen as masculine and never the two should be different? For you, does the word woman bring forth the words feminine and submissive and the word man bring the words masculine and dominant? Does it have to be either / or, does there have to be a choice, or can we be both, or maybe just be?
I seek out people whose energy is quiet, still, thoughtful, bold, beautiful, passionate, earthy, calm, powerful yet not loud, lyrical and creative, fluid, embracing and comfortable to all they are without change or force. I don't seek man or woman, male or female, masculine or feminine, I seek a soul, an energy, that sees and hears me, speaks to me and meets me where we both are, without fear of judgement or dismissal. I wonder who you are and where you would meet me, or if we would ever cross paths because of the energetic humans that we are…
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