Creating a Successful Online Relationship

Rosa Castro Psy.D

May 23

Online dating can be fun and long-lasting; however, you need to put in an honest effort if you want a decent outcome, like everything in life.

Here are things you do need to do for a healthy online relationship:

Be consistent – if you say you are going to call, keep that promise
Avoid multiple calls – Calling over a certain amount can be significantly stressful if it cuts into your work or school activities.
Do video chats – Video chatting is essential in maintaining a healthy connection, especially if you cannot meet physically.
Arrange for physical time – As much as online is convenient, you want to have a physical engagement.
Keep your life balanced – Though you may live for the moment to chat with your online partner, you do need to maintain your regular routines and focus on other areas in your life. Living only for your online mate can produce codependency and eventually erode the balance in any relationship.
Be honest – if you have reasons not to be online, avoid lying to your partner. Lies have a way of getting uncovered and destroying the trust in a relationship.
Practice active listening – communication is the cornerstone of a healthy and happy relationship. By practicing good communication skills, you can understand your partner and maintain harmony in your relationship.
Disagreements happen – all couples have conflicts and disputes from time to time. It is important to remember that differences are natural and normal and do not indicate the end of a relationship. You can learn plenty from a disagreement, especially if you take the time to listen to the person's concerns and views without trying to justify your behavior. However, the key when fighting is what we learn.
Take 3-6 months – Before deciding you are each other's soul mates, take your time truly getting to know each other. Use this period to invest in learning about each other by asking questions and discussing all things that matter regarding the type of relationship you want.
Reduce multiple dating - During the initial 3–6-month period, try to date only each other to avoid potential conflicts from deciding between two different individuals. However, if you don't feel comfortable with this, be honest.