Joanne A posted: " Belated Happy Valentine's Day, to all you lovers and friends. And shout out to all my fellow terminally single people! Hang in there.I deliberately decided not to make a Valentine's Day post all this while, because honestly, I have my issues with Valenti"
Belated Happy Valentine's Day, to all you lovers and friends. And shout out to all my fellow terminally single people! Hang in there.
I deliberately decided not to make a Valentine's Day post all this while, because honestly, I have my issues with Valentine's Day. It's always seemed a little bit phony to me. It's supposed to be a day to show love, but has been turned into a day to show the world that you are in a relationship, almost like it's a worldwide measure/competition of love. It's also a day to justify spending ungodly amounts of money on chocolate bars.
Anyway, I've decided to see beyond my personal beef with St. Valentine's memorial day and write something worthwhile.
Valentine's Day blues - it's a thing that people like to pretend doesn't exist, cause everyone wants to show the image of a perfect life. If you're not posting about your relationship, then you post about your friends. If you're not with friends, then you post about the amazing self-care day you had all alone.
Now, while there are people sharing things like this, there's also a large percentage of people who are viewing it all and feeling bad for themselves, or just feeling lonely and depressed.
Not that I know this on a close-up, personal level, hehe. Of course not.
Moving on...
This may also affect couples too. On Valentine's Day (and probably the day after that), they spend a lot of time with each other and revel in the bliss of just being together. Then a few days pass by and they feel like they've gone back to the old, boring routine.
There are ways to deal with that moody feeling that comes with Valentine's Day. It hits hardest for those going through a breakup, and it's important to stay in the right frame of mind, because loneliness is a trap. Try hard to not get caught in it.
That being said, let's get into it.
SELF CARE DAY
I know, I know, you probably think this sounds cheesy, but it's not really. I do this once a week and believe me, it is a major stress reliever. If you go on Pinterest and search "self care day ideas," you'd probably see a lot of stuff about: hydration, coffee, walks, scented candles, relaxing showers, meals full of green stuff, yoga, Pilates, meditation, painting and colouring books. While some of those stuff are relaxing, others are pretty crazy. Colouring books? Really? Well, may work for some.
My suggestion is simple: it's a SELF care day. Do whatever good thing you'd do to take care of yourself and feel amazing, wholly. That simple.
Ooh, don't you just love a good meme? It's an unusual recommendation that borders on escapism, but it works though. Sometimes, I could be having a frustrating day, then I see a really good meme on somebody's story and it just changes everything. Good quotes and memes are key ingredients in the recipe for a happy, healthy life of motivation.
Laughter is medicine. Memes take real life issues and make a joke of it, so you get relatability and humour in one picture. What more do you want?
So if your Valentine colour is a drab blue instead of a brght red, go online and just search "Valentine's Day memes" or "memes for single people". You'd find yourself laughing and crying at the same time.
LESS INSTAGRAM
And any other social media to that makes you feel less than.
If you can handle going online and commenting "Awww" on everybody else's post while still feeling good about yourself, then fine. If you know that it will get to you, avoid it. At least just for two days. Why put yourself through so much torture? It's not worth it.
Does this make a lot of sense: You pick up your phone consciously, scroll to your ex's page consciously, view their Valentine post consciously, view all the nice comments people left for them consciously, then go feel sorry for yourself with a jar of Nutella.
Why, oh why, would you do that to yourself? You wouldn't even do that to your enemy!!
So Valentine's Day isn't a day for lovers, it's a day for love. And you love your friends. Instead of being gloomy and sad that you're home alone, call up those friends who don't have dates and make plans to go out together. Spend time with each other, have fun and make memories. You don't need to be in a relationship to enjoy Valentine's Day.
Having a beautiful relationship that everyone is jealous of is just one kind of success. It's not the only thing in the world, get that. If you don't have that, I'm sure you can think of other parts of your life where you're killing it, and then shift your focus to that thing.
Are you the best player in that videogame? Did you just get a promotion? You've finally grown out your hair to where you want it? You woke up on time and made your bed today?
There are many beautiful, encouraging things in your life, just open your eyes and see them.
Relationships do matter, the good kind, not the Romeo-and-Juliet kind. (Personally I think William Shakespeare made it his mission to make mockery of love and lovers). If you're not in a relationship, that's not a problem either. Just don't let it ruin the fun you're supposed to have.
I'm a bit anti-Valentine's Day, so I have three rules for all lovers:
Finish ALL the chocolate you received before the end of the week, or I will help you do that.
No crying. Especially on videos. Please just don't. I understand that you're happy she said yes, but please, no cheesy tears this year.
You absolutely can NOT respond to a meme for single people if you're in a relationship. That's abominable!!!
Thank you all so much for reading. I appreciate your time. Be sure to like, subscribe and leave a comment if you enjoyed it. Hope you had fun yesterday? If you didn't, then have fun today.
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