You know what Christmas looks like. Busy malls, colorful lights, the ubiquitous Santas. You know what it sounds like: jingle bells, jolly music, ho ho ho. You know what you’re supposed to do: attend parties, kiss under the mistletoe, go mad buying things no one needs. You know what it’s supposed to feel like: generosity, warm fuzziness, wonder, enchantment, and excitement. Christmas has the distinctive smell of pine needles and ham dinner. You know when it’s supposed to occur; before Halloween is definitely too soon. Even if you don’t celebrate Christmas, you know all about Christmas. Getting what you want is like Christmas to you. You may think you know all about Christmas, but you may not realize that you’re missing a whole ‘nother holiday between Thanksgiving and December twenty-fifth. No, I don’t mean Black Friday. You’re missing Advent. You think you know about Advent, do you? There are the candles and the little paper houses where you open a new door every day. You’ve been there and done that; it’s not your thing. But, I bet you never thought about the true meaning of Advent, just like the true meaning of Christmas is often hidden under mounds of discarded wrapping paper. Advent is a season of the liturgical year observed as a time of expectant preparation for Christmas. Advent is about waiting. Not just any waiting, mind you; it’s waiting for something you need. It’s waiting to be saved when everything around you seems to be going to hell. That’s some serious waiting. Advent is the perfect holiday to celebrate when everything seems to be going to hell. We’re doing a lot of waiting, waiting for when we take climate change seriously. Waiting for the next election, waiting to see what the madman in the White House will do next, and whether the people who can stop him, will. If advent is waiting, we should be able to do advent. We’re waiting anyway. It’s probably not an accident that Advent occurs in what, for the Northern Hemisphere, is the darkest time of the year. It’s not the coldest time of the year, but we’re not used to the cold yet. It’s when seasonal affective disorder just gets going. As far as seasons go, it sucks. It’s no wonder that people rush into Christmas, or, for that matter, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, and Festivus. Anything is better than anxiously waiting in the dark and the cold, right when everything seems so bleak. Chase the dark away with strings of lights. Open your presents early, break into the eggnog, set the yule log ablaze, and go see Santa. But, no, I say. Practice waiting. Dwell in the dark and the cold. Observe not knowing whether anything will change. Not every holiday is about fun and games. Memorial Day is about sacrifices. On Martin Luther King Day, we acknowledge racism. There are dead people on Halloween. On Pearl Harbor Day and 9/11, we recognize national vulnerability. Yom Kippur is devoted to reviewing sins. On Sukkot, Jews pretend they’re homeless. Passover is awash in blood. Ramadan is a month of spiritual detox. I propose that we observe waiting because waiting, when done well, is important. For one, to judge from behavior in grocery lines and traffic jams, lots of people need to get better at waiting. Maybe you’re one of them. Learn to be patient through intentional practice. Second, when things finally arrive, they’re better when you’ve waited. Think of how foreplay improves sex. Three, if you’re depressed, anxious, lonely, embattled, overlooked, passed over, taken for granted, or long-suffering, Advent is a holiday devoted to you. It’s your special time, sanctified for you. All your waiting is dignified, lifted up. and honored. Finally, even if you are not depressed, anxious, shy, overlooked, passed over, taken for granted, or long-suffering, celebrating Advent helps you understand those that are. It helps you be more sensitive, more responsive, and less obnoxiously privileged. How do you observe Advent? You can light candles and open little doors if you want, but I think there are more meaningful ways to observe it. In terms of the Christian calendar, you observe Advent by holding off on Christmas. Or, in if you are not a Christian, sitting with whatever feelings arise when you need something you haven’t gotten yet. These are important feelings that must be given their due. Let me break it down a little more. Let’s say you’re a lonely person. You want to have a friend. Having a friend would be like Christmas to you. If you skipped the equivalent of Advent and went right to the equivalent of Christmas, you’d call up everyone you knew and keep them on the phone longer than they wanted to talk. You’d bend the ear of everyone you met and tell them your life story. You’d put up with all kinds of abuse and demands just so you could say you have a friend. None of this would go well and you’ll end up more friendless than you were before. If having a friend would be the equivalent of Christmas, then the equivalent of Advent would be not having a friend. Observe not having a friend. Celebrate it. I’m not saying you have to like it; I’m saying that not having a friend well prepares you to have one. Here are some things you can do while you’re waiting, to make your waiting more endurable:
That’s how you observe Advent. Identify, get ready, and expect. This makes your waiting worthwhile, and it helps you better enjoy your Christmas. You're currently a free subscriber to The Reflective Eclectic. For the full experience, upgrade your subscription.
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Monday, 1 December 2025
Why You Should Celebrate Advent
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