The hardest thing to come to grips with is to realize your loved ones have opted out of a relationship with you. You have to grieve that reality or otherwise, you are choosing to let those shoulda/coulda/woulda's bury you.
Grieve and let go of what you hoped would happen. What you wanted to happen and accept it. From a place of acceptance, ask yourself "What comes next?" What can you build from the ashes of your expectations?
If you are feeling like you lost trust. Feeling like you have been abandoned. You have and now find the people who are not afraid to grow in relationship with you. It has to be with people who are not attached to you by blood.
The kindest thing you can do for yourself is to let people go when they want to go. When you stop forcing people to choose you, you make room for the people that were made for you. Allow yourself to embrace the natural flow of relationships. Understand that not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. By letting go, you respect their journey as well as your own.
No chasing, no begging, let it hurt, and then let it heal.
Yes, this included family!
My friend used to tell me, "Bless them and let them go!"
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