What About the Children?

RisingUpAnew

June 17

What about the children? You love your children, and you want to do what's best for them, right? What about the children? In abusive relationships, the victim tries to stick it out because it is better for the family unit to stay together, right? Now, it is good that families stay together. This gives children the sense that you stick with your family and don't run out on them. Now, what if it seems like the abusive spouse doesn't want to change? What lessons do the children learn then? They can learn that it is normal to be violent or abusive, that it is normal to be chaotic, that living on the edge with fear is ok, or that being filled with sadness is normal. What about the children? They can learn that families work their problems out, or they might learn that it is okay to be violent or to get abused. What are we teaching them? When there is ongoing emotional or physical abuse, the children need to learn somehow that this is not normal. The church looks down on the victim if she leaves, and the family might do the sane. What about the children? There is a reality of abuse that the abused live that have them believing that they can't do any better. This reality could have them frozen in a state where they don't even know who they are anymore. What about the children? The children are destroyed in this reality. They have to keep this family secret. They take on victim behaviors and are depressed or abusive behaviors, and are angry. What about the children? They watch, and they suffer, but even the preachers say stay. What about the children?

God Bless!