After all the chaos and the abuse, you are now free. After the yelling, physical abuse, and mental torture,you are free. You didn't want it to be this way, but you wanted to live without the violence and the thinking that you were about to lose your mind. You wanted to be married, but this was a matter of life and death. It was a matter of being you or being someone you no longer recognized. You are not even the one who just wanted to find another. You wanted peace and dry pillows.
It is crazy how you can separate yourself from abuse, but some will act like you are an outcast. Some will say she couldn't keep a man. Some churchfolks will even think you didn't trust God to help you with your marriage.
A Christian who divorces her abusive spouse does not make an easy decision. The decision is hard because you know what the Bible says, and you don't want to disappoint God. You know the reality that you are actually in better than anyone. When they see your spouse, they might see a gentleman, but no matter how hard you try to be a good wife, you see anything but a gentleman. This is not because this is what you want to see, but it is what you are accustomed to. You even tried to keep your business private like he told you to, but you soon tealized that this was nothing to keep quiet. Now, when you opened your mouth, no one understood, and you just had to do this or that, and everything would be better.
Now, I want to encourage those that had to step away from an abusive marriage. It might be hard, but you can get through. There is nothing impossible with God. Though it is good to stay married, it is also good to protect yourself and to not lose yourself. In the midst of all your pain, don't give up on God because He hasn't given up on you. He heard your cry, and He hears you now. Don't stop calling on God. Cast your burdens on Him. He cares for you.
God Bless!
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