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In life we take on many roles depending on context: family, work, social, community, and so on. Naturally, we like to think we're perfect in each of our roles. Whether it's loving parent, employee of the month, model citizen, or whatnot, it is our ego speaking.
In reality, gaps exist between our ideal and actual self. For instance, I was never the top of the class student nor owner of a million dollar house. Oh well, such is life, and I adapt. Not to mention my roles changed over time. Maybe I've become more realistic about my own limitations.
The comforting thought is perhaps our gaps narrow over time. If that's not the case, congitive dissonance, or psychological conflict, may results evoking negative emotions like regret, disappointment, guilt. . . . So what's the bottomline, you ask?
Well, I'm no psychologist. But my gutfeel leans toward the path of resolving or reducing the gaps as one becomes mature. However if a conflict persists, becomes irreconcileable, and impacts the real life self, seek professional help or call the helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).
What unfulfilled gap(s) do you havae? Do you think it will narrow over time?
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