Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but if dealt with in a healthy, productive, and respectful way, it can bring you closer as a couple and make your relationship stronger.
The next time you find yourself on the verge of an argument, focus on using "I statements" to take responsibility for your own feeling: "I felt ______ when ______".
Since it often takes time to learn new strategies and because conflicts organically develop, make a commitment to evaluate your next conflict.
Agree that the next time a conflict comes up, you'll take time to discuss how you dealt with the disagreement. Think of it as reviewing your performance.
Take note of what new strategies helped and where you each need to be more mindful. By doing this, you and your partner are holding each other accountable for the application of these skills into your life and thus strengthening your relationship.
Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.
Tune in for more tips next week... or contact me Shane Smith shane@intentional-relationship.com or @ www.relationships online.com.au or www.intentional-relationship.com
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