I spend most of my life going about many things wrong (due to misunderstandings about my brain).
Although I am (and always have been) Autistic, I did not know this crucial fact about myself for many years, wreaking havoc on my life.
For almost the first thirty years of my life, I masked my Autistic traits because those around me had convinced me these traits were not there.
Pushing through (denying, hiding, and ignoring) over twenty-five years of regular headaches, migraines, vertigo, disorientation, physical pain, and overloads triggered by the unsupported differences that nobody knew I had.
In my head: "Nobody else is complaining about the lights, sounds, and smells—I'm sure everyone is extremely uncomfortable, and I'm just being a complainer"—as I've been called many times. "Better keep my discomfort to myself (no matter how bad it gets)."
People around me often didn't understand when I was upset by things they wouldn't be bothered by.
Meltdowns and other kinds of overloads didn't make sense when I didn't view myself through the lens of Autism. I didn't understand my triggers, how to avoid them, soothe myself, or even what these overloads were.
Without this context, I became known as someone with a volatile temper who could be set off (like a bomb).
The pressures and stresses of the day would build, become too much, and then, eventually (when I could hold things together no more), I would erupt like a shaken soda bottle, hitting everyone around me.
As an adult, this explosive rage, fear, and anxiety became a significant source of shame, so I learned to conceal it, channeling all that anguish inward toward myself, shutting down, stifling, denying, and delaying my feelings.
Not knowing I was Autistic, I learned to act like I was okay even if I wasn't (because of how little compassion others gave me whenever I was overwhelmed).
Other people felt I shouldn't be overwhelmed, and I internalized their feelings about how I should feel.
Lyric in full pink and purple drag makeup before they came out Autistic or nonbinary.
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