Man, they say that there is nothing new under the sun. When I was younger, I used to LOVE looking at, searching for, and dreaming about hooking up with a ho. Whenever I saw a woman wearing skimpy or revealing clothing, it would drive me wild. I'd stare, sometimes cat call, and basically give her all sorts of attention and validation. I was a lot like those animated cartoons who just lost control at the sight of an attractive scantily clad woman.
These days though, it seems that I find it a bit distasteful and and "simpish" to just chimp out over a woman because of her "assets". To me, it's the height and epitome of simp behavior to give women validation simply because she's showing off her body. I never leave comments under thirst traps and often feel at bit indignant over the guys who leave heart eye and fire emojis.
I think that it's for several reasons. 1)the validation goes to their heads and they end up thinking that they are 'better' than most guys because of the attention they're getting. 2)It does represent women's empowerment (in the wrong way) in the sense that it does cause men to become weak and illogical. It implies a loss of self control and 3)There are just TOO many hoes these days and not enough regular decent looking women. If she's decent looking, then a lot of times, she wants to dress like a hoe in order to get attention. There are even a ton of unattractive women donning hoe attire.
It's getting to the point....with me anyway, that I'd rather turn my head and act like I don't see her before I give her any validation. Don't get me wrong, I mean, it still does cause my heart to race and feel certain "tingles" or what not, but these days I wouldn't allow this temporary loss of self control to inform my behavior towards her.
I now understand why Islamic cultures require that their women to cover up in public.
My younger sister and I had a debate about this a few weeks ago. She says that she sees nothing wrong with women wearing whatever they want. She also thinks that it's ok for little girls on dance teams to wear whatever provocative clothing in their dance competitions. She says that men should be able to control themselves.
While I agree that men should be able to control our actions, we can't necessarily control the biological reactions ....(increased heart rate, possible erection, intruding thoughts, or those tingly feelings in our guts). It's annoying as hell to me at this point. If I go to the gym to work out, while I don't mind looking at a woman in skin tight yoga pants (which actually enhances her shape), I don't want to be distracted looking at her. My heart rate is already up there. In a sense, I do get 'triggered' (perhaps not emotionally), but biologically. As a straight man, this is something that I literally cannot help. Blame God.
I know that I sound 'old' for saying this, but i don't think that it's proper in a public setting. Plus, just because I can control myself, it doesn't mean that other men can. Women complain that men sexualize them, but in reality, they sexualize themselves. They know damn well that they garner more attention when dressed a certain way. That complaint of being more "comfortable" doesn't fly with me. They could be comfortable in sweats or even if they like the compression of yoga pants, just wear a pair of gym shorts over them. I do when I wear compression pants to the gym.
I could wear them without gym shorts, but I'm sure that other men don't want to see my dick print when I'm wearing them alone. I don't want to see other men's print when working out so I reciprocate the favor. Plus you never know who might be looking.
I don't know, I don't trust women who seek validation for their bodies. It's sort of like flexing designer clothes or rocking excessive jewelry in public, then getting mad because you are only attracting gold diggers. If women don't want to keep attracting certain types of men, then you'd think that they'd dress more moderately. Sure many men are simps and will say and do anything to get pussy, but they will attract more of those men if they are dressed like thots.
I guess that now the secret is out that women are out here just fucking left and right, I'm thinking that they don't really care about the type of attention they get. I'm starting to realize that the average woman is dick hungry and it's never really a long cool-down period between the penises they ride on and suck.
They usually always have some 'itch' scratcher, and that guy usually isn't in a relationship with them. Many seem to believe that this is ok because as they say ....if they aren't married, then they are single. I don't know why being single means that she has to be out here fucking every tom, dick, and harry that she finds attractive. In my perspective, it lowers her value and makes me not want to take a single one seriously. I understand that there are virtually no virgins out here after a certain age, but damn, a lot of these modern women will change dicks more often than the oil in their cars. I don't care what people say, but it makes them less desirable for a long term situation. A once famous youtuber said that modern black women can't seem to keep their mouths nor their legs closed. I found the word play hilarious at the time, but over time i found that seems to be truth.
It's not surprising (to me anyway) that they often end up with men who don't take them seriously. I mean I know that women have sex with other men, but damn, it's like I find that the part of me that wants to love on one .... it just kills it for me and it's hard to not see her as just a 'fun' time.
I think I'm not the only who thinks like this. I believe that 'hook up' culture and sexual liberation for women has severely diminished the dating culture. Just the idea that other men are blowing her back out and that she's taking loads to the face from other guys kind of makes me see her as a ho. Even if I'm not paying outright for sex. I mean just imagine that this woman that you're "in love with" just not even two months ago swallowed or rubbed some guys semen into her skin and she LOVED it at the time. I don't know man, I probably gotta get over that, but it's hard to imagine actually putting one on a pedestal and making her your queen....knowing that she was just kneeling b4 some douchebag begging for him to finish in her mouth.
I know what they've done to / for me, I know that I'm not really special, and so anything she did to me, I'm pretty sure she does for almost every other swinging dick in her face. Sex sort of loses its specialness in this context and it seems that this connection is just superficial / temporary .... at best. It's like being hungry and having your favorite meal served to you on a dirty garbage lid. If you're hungry enough, you'll eat it, but once the hunger subsides, you're like damn, that was pretty gross. It sort of ruins it for me, and I guess this is why post nut clarity usually makes me want to immediately pack up and leave.
This could also be another reason why I don't really pedestalize women like that anymore. They don't seem special. While I still enjoy sex, it's like ok.... so.....now what. Perhaps I'm being a hypocrite in that I've also participated into the debauchery of a few women with no thoughts of making them a wife.....perhaps this is karma. But at this point, what can I do. Hoes just gonna ho. They're going to keep ho'ing whether I participate in their whoredom or not. It's like the only option moving forward is try not to fall in love (which should be pretty easy), realize she's just my turn, and keep it cool.
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