dawnfanshawe posted: " Spoilsports Have you ever known any spoilsports in your life? You know, the ones who wouldn't and said you couldn't. The ones who disallowed the fun, who poured water on the flames and sent you home, or early to bed without your supper! I gr"
You know, the ones who wouldn't and said you couldn't. The ones who disallowed the fun, who poured water on the flames and sent you home, or early to bed without your supper!
I grew up with so many of them! I think now that I created many of them too!
I am so happy to confess that I have recently repented for judging many people in my life as spoilsports – especially early in my growing up years – parents and family especially, but some teachers and even some sensible friends!
I felt that they really just wanted to spoil my fun and wanted me to be boring and miserable.
I chose to secretly rebel against authority and strict parents, but others would interfere, trying to control my life and my behaviour and so I would rebel in my heart instead.
Of course then I would have a pity-party.
"'They' were the spoilsports for not letting me 'have fun'".
I was the victim – 'it's not fair'!
Poor me.
I think I rented a room at the pity party.
It was my secret excuse to justify my personal bad habits and weaknesses.
"You'd be like this if you had to put up with what I have to put up with!"
If 'they' were the controlling spoilsports and I was a victim, I could excuse my bad behaviour to my conscience.
As they say in AA – 'Poor me. Poor me. Pour me another one!'
I am so grateful to Jesus for showing me the way out of those destructive patterns and for enabling me to break those strongholds, by the power of the cross.
They were bitter judgments and subtle lies from hell itself.
I have repented of my judgments and renounced them, the lies and expectancies.
God has put the axe to those bitter roots and, by His grace, is showing me how to live a new way, in His truth, and free from the stronghold of those bitter roots.
By God's grace I can now rename 'spoilsports' as 'good, mean friends' or 'grace-growers'.
Thank God for those He allows to walk beside me to bump into me and knock off the rough edges!
Grace-growers help to perfect our patience, to practise forgiveness and to grow in us humility and the grace and gift of unconditional love.
Every Friday, I join an online Christian writing community, Five Minute Friday. We are given a one-word prompt and write – unscripted, unedited, pure free-write – for 5 minutes. The prompt this week is SPOIL.
I do read through my script afterwards to correct my mistakes; to check scripture references and to find an appropriate image to illustrate the topic.
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