fashionlayn posted: " Happy Tuesday! Before we get into this, let me start off asking you a question. Who says you have to be in committed relationship to have romance? Well... I DO think you have to be in a committed relationship. Having a committed relationship with yoursel" FashionLayn
Happy Tuesday! Before we get into this, let me start off asking you a question. Who says you have to be in committed relationship to have romance? Well... I DO think you have to be in a committed relationship. Having a committed relationship with yourself is just as important as in having a relationship with a partner, family, and friends. The concept of romance yourself I believe is all about how your treat yourself and radical form of self care.
As Valentines Day approaches I am writing this as a reminder to myself and to others that romance can exist in singleness. There are many ways you can bring romance in your life and we are going to talk about them! In today's post I am sharing 7 ways you can ROMANCE Yourself!
My Story
Now I would not be keeping it totally 100 if I did not say that I did not want a man. However, the real is I do want a partner! Actively in therapy I am learning that I do not have to settle for anyone or anything; just to say I have someone.
Sadly, I was so lonely that I was willing to accept "crumbs" or the bare minimum from men to just say I had someone. Those situationships left me more broken and hopeless than I ever felt before. In addition, it had me question was I really worthy of love.
Beforehand, I often long for romance and companionship, and I wonder why I wasn't getting it. To add, Even my first relationship I thought it was so real. He was sweet, charming and romantic in my eyes. But the real was I was actually love bombed and being cheated on. So you see, those relationships failed, resulting in me blaming myself on why they all fail. However, I had to come to realization that those failed what ever they was were not relationships. I couldn't people please these folks into being relationship and I have learn radical acceptance of myself!
On My Way to Romancing Myself!
So I learn how to regain my power, my self respect, and self love for myself. Now I am not blaming myself anymore for why these relationship failed. However, I learn how to treated myself Better. In addition, I reclaim the affirmation that I am worthy. Lastly, I also realize how I allow others to treat was a reflection on how I treated myself. And clear it was once all unhealthy
In conclusion, with my new perspective on life, and being, here is the new improve version of romancing yourself. Why wait for a relationship for romance when we all can be nurturing the relationship you need to have with yourself.
HMMM who knows that love for yourself may radiate so brightly that that special someone can't resist !
-FashionLayn
Why You Should Start Romancing Yourself?
I believe that romancing yourself is way of taking control , and beautiful way of bringing self care into your life. In addition, I believe that it is a great way to bring self love in our live. It is important to not wait around for others to provide romance and love when your first priority is giving it to yourself. The better you treat yourself you open yourself up to someone giving you that love in return.
Now I know it can be hard to do, but you owe it to yourself. However it all will be worth it in the long run. Take some time and commit to yourself with care and watch how romancing yourself will be breeze.
7 Ways to Start Romancing Yourself
Buy yourself a bouquet of flowers. So, flowers have always been my first choice and most easiest thing to do when in comes to romancing myself. I honestly don't know why but something about fresh flowers in my home in my home brings peach. In addition, being given flowers is such romantic gesture to start. It is effortless. Now, I always wanted a guy to send me flowers just because. However, who says I have to wait around? Until that special guys shows up, I will treat myself to lovely bouquet of roses from time to time.
Take yourself out on a date. First, it is nothing wrong with spending time with self or spoiling yourself. Remember you are romancing yourself so you deserve to love and you can show yourself the love you deserves. So, what would be your ideal date? For me, my ideal date would we romantic picnic with some good food and great conversation. I took myself on a picnic date last summer it was a great way to reconnect with myself and just breath. On contrary, use that free time to treat yourself to date. Night out on the town with yourself or with the gals. Eat at a fancy restaurant and savor every bit. Have a nice cocktail at that bar you always wanted to go to. Or explore an art museum. Some of these places can you bring you closer to your person or your people you desire to be around. You never know who you might meet that special person
TMI - explore your sexuality. Now this one is self explanatory. Put on some lingerie and get close with you! In the comforts of your own how explore your sexuality. Touch yourself and learn new ways that bring you to your heights. In addition, you can learn more on what makes you feel good and doesn't. Now you know yoursThe rest you know lol *wink wink*
Breakfast In Bed. I would love for someone to make me breakfast and bring it to my bedside. It is such a romantic gesture in my opinion. Well I say... take a day off from work. Get up make yourself some breakfast or Doordash yourself some breakfast. Put it on a nice tray, plate it and you have relaxing breakfast. Use that time to savor your breakfast and jot somethings down in your journal... Girl you did it for you sis... because you matter!
Affirm yourself. I stand on affirmations. I learn that my love language is "Words of Affirmation". So I recite to myself positive affirmation to myself. I tell myself all the time that "I am worthy". The more you affirm the more you believe. The more you believe.... well you manifest! If you don't know you love language, here is how you can find out.
Bare It All. I want my partner to admire me and love my body. In meantime, you can definitely love on yourself and show your body some love. Until then I challenge you to get naked. Admire every curve and dent on you. Praise your body, and your hair. Praise everything about you.
Be in the Moment. Get out of the rat race, and be in the moment with you. Maybe put your phone on DND- do not disturb. Eat your food slowly. Take some time to feel the music and just dance. Check in with your inner child. For example, I paint because my yourself love to paint. I don't know where this might lead you. However, I challenge you to just take sometime to live and be in the moment. Please remember to not take your time for granted.
Bonus. You can never go wrong with pampering yourself. Manicure and/or pedicure. Or how about a nice bubble bath. Hmm, you can write yourself a love letter is my favorite. Lastly, To be selfless... you can always spend time with those that really care about you!
Note: Romancing oneself can be practice that can take you all year round, not just on Valentine's Day.
- Fashionlayn
Overall, remember how important you are and that you can show yourself some love. You are indeed important. With the concept of romancing yourself you do not have to wait around for some to do it. You can do this all on your own. The best relationship you can have is with the one you have with yourself. Once that is master then you can show others love. This is your time to regain control. Always show yourself love and prioritize yourself. You are worth it.
How Are You Going to Start Romancing Yourself ?
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