Love and communication in marriage and courtship are two different things; the former is usually short, meaningful and heartfelt than the latter.
Communication in courtship is more about proving yourself worthy while that of marriage is more of keeping the house running smoothly.
Also love in the latter tends to be physical and pardon my language, mundane, but in marriage, love spells the word of protection, provision, and preservation of lives, destinies, properties, family norms, culture and values.
That's why a man who will took notice of your new hair every week while you are still dating will hardly notice you make your hair under his roof. The fact is that he didn't stop loving you but he is now loving the real you devoid of makeup and it's why you seem not to be bothered about it because what you are loving is no more fleeting but tangible.
The love was still there but the priority has shifted to another thing entirely.
Nota bene; this doesn't mean you shouldn't appreciate your wife new hairstyle.
It is also the reason you and husband used to chat through the midnight and almost 24/7, while separate, but now your communication tends more to kids' affairs (if you have one), in-laws, siblings, career progression, and many other matured convos in marriage.
Seriously, you guys didn't lose your communication vibes it is just that it matured to better things to discuss than what do you eat today.
Same reason a guy who is always afraid that something bad might be happening to you if he called two times without you answering it, now want to be left alone for some period.
Nothing is happening to you, it is just that your love and communication have matured.
Abi what do you think? Let's discuss in the comment box.
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