While embracing conflict and dealing with it can be uncomfortable, it can ultimately bring you closer as a couple.
Try to acknowledge the current disagreement and work through the conflict by actively listening to your partner. Then, respect your partners view and remember you are on the same team - it's okay to take a time out if you need to.
For discussion:
- What are your automatic negative responses when conflict arises? Anger? Withdrawal? Defensiveness?
- How do these reactions affect your ability to resolve issues respectfully?
- What can you do to counteract these reactions?
In practice:
Think about how you can show your partner respect in the midst of conflict. One way to do this is to stop and count to 5 before responding. While short, this gives you a few seconds to consider a positive response versus a negative one.
Do you need help with an issue or problem? Our approach helps to generate deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations can restore insight and understanding about one another.
Tune in for more tips next week... or contact me Shane Smith shane@intentional-relationship.com or @ www.relationships online.com.au or www.intentional-relationship.com
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