Today on Dear Sybersue, I discuss how body language can make or break your dating experiences.
When it comes to dating today, some people are very quick to judge, which leaves you a limited amount of time to make a great first impression. You may not be aware of how you come across to others, and if you are having a difficult time meeting people or getting past the first date, it is never too late to alter what isn't working. It is much better to find out why people aren't gravitating toward you, than to be frustrated, and not make an effort to understand why you aren't meeting a potential partner.
Your body language speaks volumes, and you may not realize that you come across as being unapproachable.
This can be due to shyness, self-doubt, or lingering anger over a past breakup. This can also happen when you are intensely thinking about something, and you become lost in your thoughts. Regardless of what the reason is, it can often be projected in your body language and comes across as being removed, standoffish, or guarded. Unfortunately, most people don't wait around trying to figure out who someone is, they just make a quick assumption and walk away.
Polite human etiquette is very important in today's tough world, so if you want to stand out, you need to be aware of how people initially perceive you. Ask a family member or a trusted friend to be honest and tell you what they see and how you come across to others. What is your best attribute, and what stands out that may give off emotionally unavailable vibes? It is always the right time to change up some behavioral patterns that aren't working and to figure out why you are still "not in a relationship status," when you would like to be.
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It's always a good thing to do a makeover on your attitude. We can all use a little tweaking in that department.
We can all become complacent or pessimistic at certain times in our lives, but people who take time to stay positive and keep working on themselves will always be in a place of betterment. They understand that for them to stay interesting and fun to be around, they need to keep making an effort to evolve throughout the years. They also comprehend the importance of how valuable a smile and friendly eye contact can be. It is a natural attractor!
Some people do not realize that they walk around with an unhappy scowl on their faces, which is a huge repellant and deters people from approaching them. (There is even a term for it called RBF or resting bitch face!) If you're not sure how you come across to others, pay attention to how many people openly talk to you and how many people don't. How do animals and children react in your presence? Are you receptive or closed off? If you are ready to be in a committed partnership, it is time to find out what your body language is saying.
Being kind and respectful to people you come across every day is important!
You can still be a strong, confident person and be kind at the same time. It is important to be aware of how you conduct yourself with everything you do in life. Some men and women have had a rough time when it comes to dating and being in a relationship, which can leave them feeling jaded or insecure. This shows up quickly on a date and can break any chance of having a second date. Having an aggressive or high-maintenance attitude is a turn-off and leaves a lasting impression of how people will continually judge you.
Loosen up a little, put a smile on your face, and treat everyone you meet individually. Some people categorize each other and lump all men or all women into one negative box. Give others a chance before you adopt early beliefs. It's not always just about what's happening, or not happening, in your world. We all have sh*t to deal with, that's just life. Learn the lessons you are supposed to learn and move onto a better path. Holding onto things that cause you pain, heartbreak, or anger, will always show up in your body language and your mindset.
Let your date see why you are a wonderful person and make them feel special during your time together. Leave them wanting to know more about you. When you are dating and interested in meeting someone to eventually share your life with, you will always attract more bees with honey than with vinegar. Allow others into your world with encouraging body language and a happy smile on your face.
You don't have to be a part of the anger that is happening in our world today. There is always more room for happiness, and you can make a difference in someone else's life just by being authentically "you."
Sybersue xo ❤
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