After a year together, my partner and I had a baby. The pregnancy was a marvellous surprise and parenting has been a total joy. We expected there to be sleepless nights, less sex and fewer dates but we didn't expect some changes.
Love Languages
Our love languages have changed. My partner and I both had "physical touch" as our primary love language. Now, "acts of service" seem to take the poll position.
The Little Things
A bunch of flowers from the shop, an extra hour in bed while the other looks after the baby, returning the Asos parcel. These little acts of service account for so much more than they used to because achieving small tasks throughout the day is sometimes far harder than it used to be.
Exciting Sex
We no longer have our own bedroom. Instead, we share it with our 5-month-old who wakes up to the slightest of bed creaks. Depressingly, we're also often too tired to have sex in the evenings and the inevitable wake-ups each night mean we tend to not be interested in staying up later for sex. Fortunately, this means that when we do have sex, it's exciting and passionate.
Fewer Barriers
The bathroom is still a sole-occupancy area when someone's on the loo but we've seen each other at our worst, both physically and emotionally. Some days, being a new mum means my hair is doused in dry shampoo and my partner accepts the less-than-perfect aesthetics.
Greater Tolerance
Again, we've seen each other at our worst, we understand parenting can be tough and so there are days when nothing gets done except for playing with the baby and brushing our teeth. And what a joy those days are.
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