(This first posted on July 26, 2018.)
(This first posted on July 26, 2018).
I've been on both sides of today's topic. I've engaged in my share of self-destructive behavior. I've also grieved the choices made by those I love. And while they engaged in activities I know will only lead to increased pain, at times, I felt helpless, unable to do anything to prevent what seemed like an imminent crisis.
But Scripture promises the opposite. As my guest today reminds us, there's something we can always do, whether near or far, that has the capacity to change lives for all eternity. (James 5:16)
When Our Loved Ones Self-Destruct by Linda Samaritoni
Have you ever known someone who walked away from God? Maybe a colossal disappointment shattered their world, and they assumed if God allowed such a thing to happen, then He didn't really care about them. Maybe temptation overcame them, and they blamed God for not preventing their headlong charge into sin. Maybe… Well, there are millions of possible maybes.
What happens to those individuals who remain separated from Christ?
For many, stepping away from faith feels like a relief—at first. Even in their misery, they welcome the release of pressure, similar to ratcheting down a steam valve before the pipes blow.
Such pressure is self-induced. In a performance-driven society, people often fall into the trap that God is expecting them to succeed at an A+ level.
They don't understand His grace. They don't trust this grim deity who takes note of every mistake. Once they withdraw, the burdens of their own making ease off. No more straining to "be good." No further obligations to "do good." Since they'd already proven themselves way short in every category of life, why not abandon efforts to please God?
Before those individuals decided to turn away, they chose to keep a death grip on their lives, not allowing God to control the pressure valve. They added more weight to God's expectations. They kept spinning the wheel harder and harder to the right, edging into the red zone until the pounds per square inch became unbearable.
I've agonized over a dear friend for years. He felt betrayed because God didn't say "yes" to his one big prayer. He had worked for a positive answer. He had tithed, taught Sunday school, attended church every week, and led a Bible study.
Instead of seeking his Father in the midst of disappointment, he marched in the opposite direction, jerking that wheel farther to the right. He would never ask God for a thing ever again. A wrench of the wheel. He would do as he wished since no amount of work met with God's approval. Wrench.
At first, he enjoyed the release from assumed church pressures and any obligations to join us in prayer or Bible study. He turned his back on the guilt resulting from his sin against God and others.
His relief was short-lived. Since he's not on speaking terms with God, life is terrifying, yet he remains tied to performance-based objectives as a way of life. He knows every one of his character flaws, and nothing he does will ever be adequate.
These days, shame drums endlessly like a nagging headache, and he has no resources to assuage it. He won't call on God for help. He refuses to take his hands off the controls as the needle on the gauge trembles further into the red zone.
Ultimately, the freedom to please self turns sour. God's beckoning hand either draws the person to eternal refuge or the individual resists Him and spirals downward into hopelessness and poverty of soul.
What can we do for our loved ones head toward self-destruction? We model Jesus. We pray. And we pray, and we pray.
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Let's talk about this! Is someone you care about self-destructing? Did anything in Linda's post give you hope? Or maybe you have a miracle story regarding someone you've prayed for over the years. Share your stories, examples, and suggestions with us in the comments below..
Get to Know Linda
Linda Sammaritan assumed she'd teach middle-graders until school authorities presented her with a retirement wheelchair at the overripe age of eighty-five, but God cut those plans short by a couple of decades when He gave her a growing passion for writing fiction. After blowing goodbye kisses to her students, she now dedicates her work hours to learning the craft. Every once in a while, though, she finds her way back to school so she can teach creative writing workshops. She is currently working on a middle grade trilogy, World Without Sound, based on her own experiences growing up with a deaf sister.
Linda often travels across the country to visit her grandchildren, regaling them with "Nona stories," life lessons from her childhood. Visit her online at her personal website and group website, connect with her on Facebook, and follow her on Twitter.
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