A man is powerful when he is in control of what he does when provoked. Men are not as verbal as their female counterparts, when a man is hurt, he loses his sense of rational thinking, he can destroy everything around him just to prove a point. A man's greatest weakness is his fragile ego, once this has been trampled on, he becomes a senseless raging bull and can demolish even his most priced possessions to prove his masculinity. True power is attained when a man learns to walk away from provocation.
Most men who have hit their wives or partners blame their actions on what was said to them, this is a shameful show of weakness. A woman taunts you to the point where you may be tempted to lash out. This is how she manipulates you, she takes total control once she gets you to react. She knows that no matter what she has done, once you lay your hands on her, you will be vilified by everyone as an abuser of women.
When she is at fault, rather than accept her misdemeanor she throws verbal tantrums to divert attention from her mistakes, it takes true strength to hold back. Once you learn to control your actions under the bombardment of her verbal warheads, her scorn will gradually evaporate and sometimes transcend to respect. Under this controlled atmosphere you will have the opportunity to discuss and resolve issues.
A woman becomes powerful when she learns to be silent. A woman can destroy herself and those around her with her tongue, being physically weaker than the man, she relies on the power of spoken words to fight back. This is not peculiar to your wife or partner, it is trait shared by majority of women.
A woman's weakness is her emotions, once this is hurt, she has the capacity to spew venom from her mouth, this is usually intended to pierce the very depth of a man's soul. Men know this and expect a woman to react verbally when there is an issue. Men will manipulate you by getting you to the point where you abuse and disrespect them, the focus then shifts from what he has done to the disrespect you have displayed. This is his way of evading taking responsibility for his wrongdoing.
Women who choose to respond in silence are a challenge to most men. You instill a very significant amount of fear and respect in him when you respond in silence or politely even when it is clear he has erred. By doing this, you will force him to to the table to discuss and address your concerns.
Develop and nurture the art of self control and managing your ego or emotions, it will help bring stability and elicit respect and love from your spouse - Sir Stanley Ekezie
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