confessionsofabillionaire posted: " A joke that is understood only by people with special knowledge about something 2023 Merriam-Webster I think am at that point in life, where I am just tired. I have always spent an enormous amount of energy trying to constantly explain myse" Confessions Of A Billionaire
A joke that is understood only by people with special knowledge about something
2023 Merriam-Webster
I think am at that point in life, where I am just tired. I have always spent an enormous amount of energy trying to constantly explain myself to people, out of the fear of being misunderstood (I was unaware that it's okay to be misunderstood as long as you know the truth). For a long time, I have desired so much to be understood, because somehow that translated into a criterion for acceptance, "If people understand you, they will accept you". So, every once in a while, I found myself in places where am overexplaining my intentions, my actions and thoughts because it has always mattered how am perceived, but thank God not anymore. Let me share a thing or two or more:
Growth sometimes comes with age, sometimes it comes when the universe has placed you on a path where you pursue God. That way we evolve into something we had never been before. We shade off the old skin, old self and step in into new waters-it is refreshing and satisfying because you are in a place where you are no longer broken. You are healing and the things that used to frustrate you in the past no longer have the power to walk all over you, you simply have developed a thicker skin unlike before so much that only a few things can phase you. You start fighting for what matters and invest your time and energy only in those things that keep you on the path where you meet your ultimate self. Anything else comes as a distraction and you have the aptitude to keep yourself focused.
I had a really beautiful conversation with my aunt few weeks ago and we talked about perception, how important it is, how it changes a person and those around them. From that I learned so many things and among them: how I look at the world matters, I knew this but this time it actually sank in and made ripples of change all over my entire existence. If one has-and I quote Mark Manson from the Subtle art of not giving a f*ck- a "Metric system" whose built up is outdated and renders it dysfunctional, life becomes unnecessarily difficult when it doesn't have to be. It is like having a car whose tires are completely deflated, you will go to places but it will be hard to get there and you can only go to so many places. Getting those tires inflated is metaphorically changing your perception, you now can move smoothly and no longer be tethered by a broken view of the world that keeps you from seeing and going to other places (Places where there is healing, peace, happiness etc.).
So, what changed the day I had a conversation with my aunt was inflating my tires and now I have expanded my travel, instead of wasting energy trying to explain myself to everyone who misunderstands me, my mind uses that energy now to wander to places where I feel no need to explain myself, for I am okay with being misunderstood and I explain myself out of choice. All along I would explain myself because I was sadly mistaken that for me to be happy, be at peace, I needed to be understood by the whole world (Impossible). Instead. I have a few people now who I chose to explain myself to because I have a relationship with those people and to a degree what they think of me matters (Key phrase to-a-degree, for it also would be unhealthy to constantly have people's perception of you determine your purpose, "I am perceived to be good so let me play that part", "I am perceived to be bad, so let me spend most of my time in this short life overexplaining myself to people that am not bad").
In the end you will be exhausted, and reach a threshold of weariness which will have you no longer wanting to live that way. Fortunately, the universe can place you on a path where you will heal and feel no need to attach your happiness to being understood by everyone. Even the few people you choose to explain yourself to, you can only explain so much otherwise it becomes over-explaining and that can be draining, you will be sucked dry of all your energy by the time you finish over-explaining yourself, you will have no energy left to actually live and do the things that actually matter in life. What good is being understood by everybody but in the end have no energy to live?
Why I called this piece an Inside Joke? It is humour appreciated and understood by a few people, ones who know what the joke is about. Choose to be an inside joke, not understood by everyone but perfectly content with whoever understands you.
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