You shall take mixed signals as an unmistakable NO. If what is being said and the subsequent action is in contrast, you shall assume actions to be the best indicator. Words are cheap, people use them to gain access.
Responses like, "I am uncertain if I want a relationship now, let's just flow and see" or "I am not sure about this, but we can give it a try" are scams. The truth is, you are not welcome in their space, but you cannot leave right away because you have something they are siphoning already.
Why I am saying this, usually these people say these things meanwhile they are already munching your money and enjoying your goodness if not goodies. Remember you are a kindhearted person. Probably they are using you as a painkiller or to find a refuge camp from their chaotic lifestyle.
These people are drama queens and kings, they introduce you to friends and relatives but without a definite yes. You waste your energy trying to make them commit, vacillating from anxiety, euphoria to depression.
Some may argue, what if it works eventually?I would say you would rather not drag yourself into marriage, again you will carry the load alone, remember they told you, no, even if it was a subtle No, still you were supposed to take heed. 9 out of 10 they will end up telling you that," But I told you that I was not sure" that is if they dont just walk away.
You need to be convinced that you are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Psalms 139:14
[14]I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.
This kind of nonsense is accommodated by people who are yet to be awakened to that reality about their true worthy. That's why you need to put some mental guardrails and non-negotiable standards.
This generation we mock those who don't invest in women before marriage but at least they scare away these unstable people, even those ladies who don't open their "cookie jars" before the ring.
What are we saying, a No is a no. Don't be confused by cruel mental games. You don't deserve to be treated lowly.
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