What is it about assumptions?

rheadopmeijer

Aug 5

Foremost, what is an assumption? An assumption is something that you assume to be the case, even without proof. For example, people might make the assumption that you're a nerd if you wear glasses, even though that's not true. Or very nice.

Usually, it says a lot about how you perceive, judge, or think it might happen in a certain way. More importantly, when you assume someone else will react or behave in a way you are not comfortable with. This is one of the many traps we can fall into if we are not eager or willing to check if our assumption is valid.

The easiest way to create clarity is to ask. Yet when the obstacle lies in emotion that will prevent someone to ask, that's where the real assumption starts. Especially if it is being fed by negative emotions like insecurity, sorrow, or anger. The train of thought will go rapidly, creating a negative outcome.

The communication will get polluted by it energy-wise through verbal expressions. Sometimes it has to do with misunderstanding. Sometimes it is about the way words are being used. It can cause frustration and irritation on both sides. It can be a negative experience as well when it evaluates you so to speak.

You need to be aware,
In order to change the pattern.
Connection is something to offer
In a loving way and with respect.
You and I are not that different
As you seem to believe at times.
When fear is part of the situation
Or insecurity steps in.
There will start the process
Of assuming and projection
Of the way you perceive yourself.
Lack of self-worth and misunderstanding
And therefore misinterpretation,
Causes internal friction.
Even with love in the equation,
The thoughts can run in the opposite
direction away from the loving relationship.
Awareness is your tool in order to change.
In order to create a new perspective
And understanding of each other,
Lesser room for assumption to rise.
It all starts from within how you will
Perceive any situation or experience.
Being confident and filled with self-love
There is a space, where you can check and ask.
Without the dualistic way of competing,
there will be a harmonious way of
receiving and interpreting the messages.
Communication is getting transparent again.
How you want to be treated,
So you should treat the others as well.
In defense caused by friction,
You will find no transparency nor a loving exchange.
Become aware of your inner insecurities
And the causes that lie underneath.
For they are the triggers internally
That will create the assumption and believe
The way you are being perceived.
In a loving connection, they need to be different
Conscious of your inner actions
Will create the greatest opportunity.
It will open up the dialogue with your inner
Counterpart you believe you see in the reaction
Of the other, that feeds the uncertainty within.
Misunderstandings can be avoided again,
Where the perceptions are being unfolded.
In order to have a relationship with yourself,
In a loving, unconditional way,
You address the aspects that are in need
of understanding with compassion and love.
Healing starts with the internal communication
Through awareness and consciousness.
Then it will be easy to ask,
To be really interested in a loving way.
With an open heart and ear,
To listen without judge-mental thoughts
Or fears causing the emotions to erupt.
This will bring space to communicate
And exchange points of view.
Love will be the key to this process
To be able to get rid of the emotional turmoil.
It will bring clarity and peace of mind,
As well, an open and caring attitude.
As it is within, so will it come forth.