Letting go - what is it about letting go?
This brings me back in time to several years ago, when I went through a process of letting go of my Love for so long. Something was off, and I could feel the distance between the two of us. I also realized that it was his journey to walk in his processing of old ancient karma as well as reconnecting with an old past life love.
The only way I could respond to it was what kind of effect it had on me and how I was able to deal with it. The important message in all of this was how to release any of my fear, my anxiety, my fear of losing his love for me, the end of our relationship after nearly 40 years. Could I do this in a loving way for both of us, at least for myself, was the main question and also my biggest challenge?
The only way finally was to let go of the outcome, if and how this relationship and my love for him was going to be in the future time.
Could I do this by unconditionally surrendering and loving towards him and for my own highest good?
This didn't mean denying any kind of emotion that came up, not the fear, the anger, the hurt, and also the betrayal of trust. Yet by lovingly accepting and allowing every emotion that came up, keep on breathing through them, it cleared, and I was able to release by letting go. Not just that, I also was able to see the pattern and what happened to cause this process.
It allowed me to see the struggle it was for the one I loved, and why this came up in his life's journey in this space of time and space again. My compassion for him allowed me to hold on to my love for him, enabling the both of us to go through the experience into a new deeper loving connection, heart-to-heart, soul-to-soul.
So now a couple of years later the same question pops up. First when my love was diagnosed with colon cancer, followed by surgery and a big release of old karma, through the release of physical literal, as well emotional, and mental. Chemo followed, and his body couldn't handle the infusion of the platinum, so he had to stop and continue with the chemo tablets. Again, the process of letting go started.
And this time I have to say: here we are again, 3rd time in a row, again started with chemo after being diagnosed with metastasis in the liver and lungs a couple of months ago. His body is fighting, and extreme fatigue is a result.
Watching this struggle as well as the way the process is proceeding of letting go of physical embodied qualities, the abilities to work with scholarship diminished, and actually disabled as the people he has been supporting for over 30 years, brings up new emotions again. This is a life-threatening event, we both have to face, together as well individually.
Third time for both of us in letting go of the outcome, what will be done for his and mine highest good, what does it require from the both of us? There is only one answer - Love.
The love between ourselves and acknowledging the process we are going through, each in our own way individual as well as a couple. It requires openness, transparency, and communication. Even the strain it causes on our relationship needs attention and loving acceptance, for nothing is more important now than to be brutally honest in our own truth.
And so it will be done.
High Self @RheaDopmeijer (c)
Heartfelt Messages 19-7-2015
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