Attraction; Myths And Truths From Solomon's Eyes 2

Emmanuel Nyabam

Jul 30

I am the rose of Sharon, And the lily of the valleys. As the lily among thorns, So is my love among the daughters. As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, So is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, And his fruit was sweet to my taste. He brought me to the banqueting house, And his banner over me was love. Stay me with flagons, Comfort me with apples: For I am sick of love. His left hand is under my head, And his right hand doth embrace me.
Song of Solomon 2:1‭-‬6 KJV

This morning we pick up from where we ended yesterday after defining what sexual arousal has to do with turn on and how the mind is key on this journey, we return and pick up at our key passage. Like an apple tree amongst the woods is the man loved. The Bible speaking on the treachery of wrong use of our sexuality in this same book warns severally not to awaken love before it's time. It was therefore strictly for marriage as designed by God. Now the serpent had led Eve and Adam to eat of the tree of good and evil. That eating allowed them to see that they were naked and suddenly they were ashamed. Sin indeed leave you with the feeling of shame. 25 or so trees are mentioned across the Bible as trees of life. When we buy land we plant trees right? In some African traditions that act is actually a descriptive of sun worship. The plant is referred to as it's rising and setting equates to the rising and falling of manhood as folks in and around the ancient near east and India still do. In fact some Biblical historians say the tower of Babel was built and shaped as the male organ...how ever that's not our focus and our desire is to break myths and correct what should attraction should be as Williams Atkinson wrote about one major law of the universe drawing the tapestry of his now famous worl the law of attraction.
So let's now visit some myths and truths about sexual turn ons noting that even in Songs Of Solomon the Nubian whom I dare say was Nigerian from the middle belt region, showed that attraction is part of our sexual proces and we need to understand the myths and truths... So journey with me folk! So we drew up a stat about what turns on folk and it made for a very interesting reading!

So of about 500 polled friends, readers and followers with 321 females who were more open to the question about what turns one on. Surprisingly 78% of the women referenced some form of physical touch like kissing, sucking of the boobies and other parts of the human anatomy as a turn on. 86% said communication was key to this journey. A minute group of less than 20% picked specific body parts as toe nails or finger nails as key to such attraction.179 men polled in and as a man I found it shocking that my kin were so closed to sound sexual conversation. I noted that to dispel myths and propel truths we would have to focus on the male species. 95% percent polled that physical appreance is important to sexual attraction. Of this group physical touching of some female anatomy attracted 82% of the men. In fact they were able to see the women naked even while clothed. 6% polled that nails were very important part of their sexual attraction. So women with painted nails that were very neat and clean were high up that ladder for men. Interestingly, 75% polled that communication was key to their journey and that once there was no sound connect intellectually through communication there was no attraction no matter the beauty. This means there is a myth on sexual turn on and some truths too. The next paragraph I will state the myths and the truths as briefly as I can.

Myth: There is a universal formula for turn-ons. Truth: What turns one person on may not have the same effect on someone else. Individual differences play a significant role in determining what stimulates sexual desire. Myth: Turn-ons are solely physical in nature. Truth: While physical attraction can be a powerful turn-on for many individuals, emotional and psychological factors also play a crucial role in sexual arousal. Intimacy, trust, and emotional connection can be just as stimulating as physical attributes. Myth: Sexual turn-ons are fixed and unchanging. Truth: Sexual desires and turn-ons can evolve over time. Factors like life experiences, personal growth, and the nature of one's relationships can influence what a person finds sexually stimulating. Myth: Turn-ons are only about one's partner's appearance. Truth: While physical attraction is important, it's not the only factor that contributes to sexual arousal. Communication, emotional intimacy, and mutual understanding between partners can significantly impact sexual desire. Myth: Sexual turn-ons define one's character. Truth: A person's sexual preferences do not dictate their morality or character. Consensual acts between adults, as long as they don't harm others, should not be a basis for judgment.

I think it's necessary we go a bit deeper on these issues so we know the truth for ourselves that culture, traditions of men, religion also largely determine how we perceive attraction. I want to believe that emotional intelligence as one reads can clear the fundermental truth that the mind is most key to the law of attraction. So what are we to look out for. We shall focus on that now.What to Look Out For: 1. Consent: Respect for each partner's boundaries and obtaining explicit consent before engaging in any sexual activity is vital. 2. Communication: Open and honest communication with your partner about desires, boundaries, and comfort levels is crucial to fostering a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship.3. Mutual Respect: Both partners should respect and value each other's preferences and feelings, avoiding coercion or pressure into any sexual act.4. Safety: Practicing safe sex and taking necessary precautions to protect against sexually transmitted infections is essential. 5. Seek Support: If certain turn-ons or desires cause distress or discomfort, seeking professional guidance from a therapist or counselor can be beneficial.

So we now know what to look out for and tomorrow we shall dig a little deep and hopefully correct the ills of faulty sexual arousal. Note please my message is for the married or intending to marry. It is not for the young and restless trying to sow their wild oats and spoil wells that come their way. It was not designed that a man breaks ever cistern in his path but that he be a cover to same. Drink from your wife's well is my core message. In fact both must agree what is ok sexually and be willing to learn of each other. Can we stop that nagging lie that giving and receiving head is a sin already? It is only a sin if the man seeks to keep plunging his rammed rod everywhere possible. Many do not realize that taking that which is not yours even distorts your DNA. It is why we request you break blood ties. Once broken you will sense the difference when both of you lie and copulate folk. God designed our sexuality for pleasure and to reproduce. Can we focus already and stop the advancement of satanic sales of pornography and lust as sound sexual arousal? It's ok to get turned on but not ok to act on same with someone who is not your spouse. That's where as one rapper sang my minds playing tricks on me is key. God bless and protect sound sexual arousal in our homes in Jesus name Amen. Shalom

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