Naked And UnAshamed; The Anatomy Of An Affair! 2
After this he loved a woman in the Valley of Sorek whose name was Delilah. And the Lords of the Philistines came to her and said to her, Entice him and see in what his great strength lies, and by what means we may overpower him that we may bind him to subdue him. And we will each give you 1,100 pieces of silver. And Delilah said to Samson, Tell me, I pray you, wherein your great strength lies, and with what you might be bound to subdue you. And Samson said to her, If they bind me with seven fresh, strong gutstrings, still moist, then shall I be weak and be like any other man. Then the Philistine Lords brought to her seven fresh, strong bowstrings, still moist, and she bound him with them. Now she had men lying in wait in an inner room. And she said to him, The Philistines are upon you, Samson! And he broke the bowstrings as a string of tow breaks when it touches the fire. So the secret of his strength was not known. And Delilah said to Samson, Behold, you have mocked me and told me lies; now tell me, I pray you, how you might be bound.
Judges 16:4-10 AMPC
See 16:4-31
This morning I want to xray an affair further and the best start point should be Adam and Eve but that has been over flogged and we might not get the point properly in my view. We shall however return to Adam at the end of our journey folk or come to think of it we must start with Adam and Eve as the foundation matters much. So, an affair is a complex and emotionally devastating situation that can deeply impact individuals and relationships. Understanding the anatomy of an affair, including the warning signs and the underlying reasons for their occurrence, can help individuals protect themselves and their relationships. This series explores the key aspects of the anatomy of an affair and offers insights into safeguarding oneself from falling into infidelity.
The Bible in Genesis talks about Adam and Eve, the first man and wife, being "naked and unashamed." I think that means that they shared with each other what they wanted, felt, liked, didn't like, and much more. There was no filter because they did not need one. They totally trusted each other and experienced amazing intimacy physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.The best part is that intimacy, is there for us just like it was for them. That was and is God's plan. Let's look at it this way. The first "sex-ed" course I took was from the world I lived in says Dr Kim (my mentor on sex education). It taught me what my culture believed about sex. It was a course I wish I had never enrolled in, but I did. Lots of us did. Today we can enroll in another "sex-ed" course. It is very, very different from the other one and it really, really works because the Professor is amazing. You see, He's the One who invented sex in the first place! Today's Challenge: Where did you first begin to learn about sex and sexuality?
This is key in learning about the Anatomy Of An affair. If you learnt about sex from pornography or your friends or from a prostitute you honestly have a wrong concept of sound relationship and will probably eternally operate from a position of an affair. You see an affair is guided by the desire to take what is not rightfully yours. In fact it is a quest to satisfy a desire that is never satisfied because it truly never existed outside your spouse. Let me explain further, your spouse like Eve was taken from you and so the hunt for her is a life long journey. I warn my young brothers don't turn a date into a spouse and miss the spouse because of your frolicking ways! Well Eve had the second most but first most dangerous affair. The first affair was what God had with Adam. It was about companionship and Communication.
The good Lord noted that the entire creation had no companion that suited His relationship with Adam so God put him to sleep and performed the first major surgery taking his rib the one that protects his heart, meaning the woman was meant to be the heart beat of the man. No wonder the Bible will later call her a cover or shield for her man. How long will you waver and hesitate [to return], O you backsliding daughter? For the Lord has created a new thing in the land [of Israel]: a female shall compass (woo, win, and protect) a man. Jeremiah 31:22 AMPC. One version says she will shelter a man. If a woman is a shield and God also called rhe man a cover for her also calling the man a Shepherd, when you go covering another's sheep focus is instantly lost folk! I will give the The Cycle of an Affair as follows; 1. Emotional Vulnerability: Affairs often begin when one or both partners experience emotional vulnerabilities, such as loneliness, dissatisfaction, or a lack of emotional support within the relationship. 2.Opportunity: An affair typically arises when an individual encounters someone who fills the emotional void or provides excitement and attention that they feel is missing in their current relationship. 3. Escalation: Emotional connections can intensify into physical intimacy, leading to a secretive and passionate relationship outside the primary partnership. 4. Guilt and Deception: As the affair progresses, guilt and deception become prevalent. The secrecy required to maintain the affair can be emotionally exhausting for all involved parties. 5. Discovery or Disclosure: Affair partners may be discovered or choose to disclose the affair, leading to significant emotional upheaval and potential relationship breakdown. Folk this is the cycle and once started it is very hard to end it folk. Note that it is similar to the Pornography circuit. The most dangerous part is the Guilt and deception. It continues the cycle until Discovery or Disclosure. I have chosen to start this way than go straight into the anatomy so that it is in full glare as we continue this journey.
I will end by saying Adam was busy naming animals with God and that left Eve emotionally vulnerable. That allowed the serpent exploit and gain her confidence until she ate that apple. The serpent took his opportunity and escalated until she ate that apple. The devil does not want secured homes as your marriage and home proves he'll is real. It is Satan's only fight! Look around you the family, home and marriage are all Satan is after. The escalation was such that she drew Adam in. The Bible says he was there with her. The serpent had conversed enough with Eve to gain her confidence that even Adam was swayed. That's how dangerous an affair is and Adam fell. Note the guilt and discovery or Disclosure season took away the naked and unashamed nature of marriage and left them hooked on shame. We have sex today and quickly cover ourselves up instead of basking in the glorious sensation of true worship. Like I once mention sex is an act of worship! Who are you worshipping when you make love, God or Mammon? May God keep us from affairs and may that flirtation not overtake any of us in Jesus name Amen! Shalom
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