How can you be sure when making a decision? And we know all decisions have consequences. If, currently, you're facing a difficult choice, then it might help if you think about the following:
1. Ask yourself if you think you will look back and feel proud of yourself, or happy with your decision, in a month, a year, or 10 years from now.
What (if any) regrets might you have? This should influence the choice you make.
2. Think about the strategies you have used when making decisions in the past. What worked, and what didn't work? Why do you think this was the case? Apply this information to your current decision.
3. Try to quieten the voices around you and simply listen to your own heart and mind. No-one knows you like you know yourself.
4. Take your time. Rushed decisions are rarely good decisions. Don't act in haste.
5. Think about the impact your decision might have on others, and especially those who are closest to you.
6. At the same time, don't be afraid to make mistakes. Few decisions are irrevocable – and living without risk is a life half lived. If nothing else, we can learn from our mistakes.
7. Talk it over with people who know you well – and who are willing to be honest, and to speak the truth. (But, also, remember #3 above.)
8. Ask yourself: What's the worst thing that could happen? What are the chances this will happen? And, can I survive it, if it all falls apart?
9. Gather as much relevant information as you can, related to the problem or the situation. Try to see things from every angle. Try to envisage every possible outcome, and the impact this will have on you, and others.
10. If you can, put the decision on hold for a while. Stalling for time, and opting for more space, often brings a fresh, and more objective, perspective.
11. Be brutally honest with yourself. Don't deceive yourself, or sugar coat the truth. You are big enough to handle the truth.
12. If you have to talk yourself into making a decision, then the chances are that this is not the right decision.
"So do it. Decide. Is this the life you want to live? Is this the person you want to love? Is this the best you can be? Breathe in. Breathe out. And decide." Meredith Grey
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