Favorite Quote: "You cannot force passion. Passion flows from the ability to be vulnerable, which flows from the ability to trust, which flows from a safe relationship. With so much of the Christian advice telling us good marriages are built by having passionate sex, no wonder we've gone adrift—we were doing it backward" (224).
My Impressions: What if the church has gotten sex all wrong? In the wake of purity culture, it seems a question worth asking, and one that Sheila Wray Gregoire is not scared to ask. Along with her daughter, Rebecca, and their associate Joanna Sawatsky, Gregoire began writing this book in response to a research project they undertook along with a huge survey they conducted of over 20,000 women (11). They found that while Christians as a whole, "tend to have better sex and happier marriages than people who are not religious" (10), the orgasm gap between men and women was 95% to 48% (percent who orgasm every time or almost every time they have sex) (11-12). This led to a lot of questions, and research, and ultimately, this book.
As every good student of history knows, most efforts to course-correct result in some over-correction. My overall perspective of The Great Sex Rescue is that it is an excellent attempt to course-correct that results in some over-correction at times. I tend to be wary of people who come off as overly sensitive or reactionary, and I felt a little of both in this book at times. Because of that, I think that women will probably love this book and men will probably respond defensively. I suspect the authors could have reached a broader audience by changing the tone at times. All that said, some of the things they said definitely needed to be said, and I appreciate their willingness to say it!
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