Choosing celibacy as an adult can be one of the toughest decisions to be made. The reason why most choose the pathway of sexual inactivity is to discover who they are without sex and shift into bettering themselves, internally. On the other hand, some adults are forced by circumstances to be celibate even when it's against their own will.
When adults state that they are being celibate, there is that tendency to think that it's out of choice. While some have the option to press the button as to whether they want sex, some do not have that privilege.
In a society that is hypersexualized, some adults yearn to be part of the statistics but it remains a dream. They don't want to be celibate but they are forced to be.
Here are several factors that are likely to lead to involuntary celibacy:
Studies have indicated there has been an upsurge in women engaging in casual sex but there are still those who do not subscribe to it and don't want sex just for the sake of having it. They want to create an emotional bond where they unclothe their souls before their bodies. This has resulted in them being overlooked as the majority of the men are on a mission to nail every woman they come across and if they can't, they move on to the next.
Young men are being faced with a highly competitive dating environment, whereby, if their pockets are not deep it automatically translates to rejection. Modern women find moneyed men to be more attractive and prefer mating with them as it guarantees huge returns leaving young-broke men in a very disadvantaged position. As a result of this, young men have resulted to spending hours watching porn as they can't keep up on the ground of competition.
Trauma from the past has left the two genders opting to abstain from any mating sessions. Victims of sexual assault find it difficult to let their guard down as they are still dealing with residues of what transpired. Some are dealing with trauma from the relationships that they've had in the past which could be as a result of betrayal and hurt.
Studies have indicated that body image plays a big role when it comes to involuntary celibacy. This highly affects women, especially in this era where beauty standards have been set by society. Women who do not fit in the threshold of what is defined as beauty, are likely to shy away from mating as they might feel undesirable and fear being mocked. This is likely to happen to women who are overweight. Additionally, men have openly stated their preferences, leaving out women who do not meet them.
A quick question. Do men struggle with body image issues?
There is immense pressure that is put on men regarding 'chamber' performance . Unrealistic expectations have been set that a man is incapable of achieving and to top it up, there has been a tendency to make fun of the size of their 'biological anatomy' in public. This dilutes the confidence of men and they opt to refrain from mating for the fear of mockery.
Fear of mating. Studies have indicated that there are adults who fear being vulnerable and cannot fathom the thought of mating. Additionally, there are women who fear getting pregnant and opt to refrain.
Religion plays a huge role as it denotes that there are repercussions brought about by mating with someone you are not married to. Adults who want to reserve first-class seats in heaven, regardless of high body temperatures, opt not to engage in any indulgences leaving them to deal with temptations in the best way they know how.
Studies indicate we are living in a generation of adults who do not want to go out and interact but rather spend hours on their phones. They fear initiating relationship and view it as applying for a job they are not qualified for. This leaves them with fewer chances of meeting real people and not being able to mate.
Disability is also another factor that leaves most adults with no other choice other than remain celibate. Insecurities, also play a huge role as most adults deem themselves inadequate and would not be comfortable opening up themselves for fear of being judged.
To finalize, looking around, adults are out here trying to make ends meet. The high cost of living does not give them the luxury of mating due to their busy schedules.
I believe other several factors are not here.
Quick question: are you celibate by choice? Or circumstances have forced you?
I know where I lie but I prefer not to say.
Have a great week.
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