Do you have a baby name for your sweetie pie? It could create a stronger and happier relationship.
Parents often give infants a baby name like "love bug" or "snook'ums". This name creates a stronger bond between parents and child. It set the relationship apart from others.
As you mature, the desire for a special relational moniker continues. And while most teenagers wouldn't accept a "baby name", they'll accept a "pet name". Sounds more grown up. Entering adulthood, we use terms of endearment (TOEs) in our relationship.
Terms of endearment are important in the relationship with our honey. They express love, familiarity, and a unique bond. They become a very personal language between us. And they express more than affection. TOEs bring levity and a sense of playfulness into your relationship.
What does research show us about using TOEs in a relationship?
- Of people "very happy" in their relationship, 76% use TOEs. (Dr. Pepper Schwartz)
- Men and women satisfied in their relationships used TOEs more often than those who weren't. (Journal of Social and Personal Relationships)
- Another survey discovered couples using TOEs were 16% more likely to be happy in their relationship.
It's also reported, pet names connote a special intimacy reserved for your sweetheart. They distinguish between your real, intimate relationship and the false "intimate" relationships of social media.
And the more satisfied you are with your relationship, the more open you are to romancing your prince/princess. Convinced a pet name for your darling would bring you closer and open up your relationship to more romance? Now you may wonder about using these terms of endearment. Is there a name beyond "sweetie" and "love" you can use as your special TOE? In the next Romantic Memo, we'll explore TOEs further with ideas for and warnings about their use.
Robert, a hopeless romantic
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