Before you are going to be able to heal, you are going to have to admit this to yourself … You're going to have to go through the following process:
"You might be wondering why it happened. Why they did this to you. And they might even tell you it was a mistake. They might even tell you they're sorry. They might even beg for a second chance.
But remember.
Always remember.
That at that very moment, they knew how much it was going to hurt you.
They knew how much it was going to shatter your world and turn it on its head.
And still, they chose to hurt you.
And, still, they chose the other side.
They disrespected you, and they took you for granted.
And please believe that this was not a mistake. That it wasn't an accident.
Because during that moment they knew.
And that's all you have to wonder about.
They knew.
And they weren't sorry.
And during that time, they didn't choose you." – r.m. drake
This is very painful to face full on.
It doesn't really matter what reason or excuse they come up with.
It doesn't matter how they've been shaped and affected by early life experiences.
They still did something they knew would pierce you to the core.
And it was a deliberate choice.
And people who truly love you don't treat you like that.
Perhaps this is the hardest truth of all to face.
But once you have faced it – and have called a spade a spade – you can begin to consider what the next step should be You can start to consider what you'll do with this knowledge.
"A partner affected by intimate betrayal experiences a level of pain that is indescribable. The hurt is so profound and complex, partners often wonder if it will ever get better." - Shira Olsen
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