Don't Lose Hope posted: " "If giving leaves you feeling empty, you're giving too much to the wrong person." – Pavana Reddy Something that we all need to think about! All relationships need to have boundaries. There are people we have a responsibility to in life. But " Don't Lose Hope
"If giving leaves you feeling empty, you're giving too much to the wrong person." – Pavana Reddy
Something that we all need to think about!
All relationships need to have boundaries.
There are people we have a responsibility to in life. But even these relationships need to have healthy boundaries. And how much we can give at any point in time depends on what is going on in our lives.
We can be sick, run down, over-stretched at work, be dealing with trauma, disappointment or loss … and all of these things can take their toll on us. They can limit out ability to give to other people.
So, we need to know ourselves well. We have to learn to recognize when we need to say "no"; when we need to pass the responsibility onto others; or, even, when we need to walk away. Because this is absolutely crucial for our health
And then there are the people who are more on the periphery of our lives, anyway. The "friends" who continually make demands on us, but who are never really there for us, or for others. The people who use us, and who push us around with their sense of entitlement, expectations and constant demands. Or the people who ask to take on this or that role or task when it's the last thing we really want to do.
If we are people pleasers, or if we struggle with low self-worth, then it can be hard for us to say "no" to these kinds of people.
Yet these are the very people we really need to say "no" to. These are the people who will drain our energy.
So, if you have trouble standing up for yourself, take time to explore what the cause might be?
What are the beliefs you hold about yourself?
In your personal belief system, what does saying "no" say about you as a person?
For your needs and wishes matters just as much as theirs.
Perhaps you need to say "no" more, and invest more in yourself.
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