The choice to celebrate life instead of mourning the loss
Mourning and grievance are very much entwined with diverse cultures and religious perspectives, as is the way the symbols and attributes differ due to the way we have learned within our own society how to deal with death. How do we perceive death as a transition or just death as ending life without further ways to travel.
If we can look at how we are giving this form, we will immediately discover the way we are dealing with the departure of a loved one. It is connected so much with the dependency of our role within the relationship we had. Being a parent, a child, a friend, or a lover holds many distinct roles as well as aspects within us. Growing up will teach us, through our role models as well as society and its norms, how we will internalize these influences.
As we can see through history and the different timelines there is an evolving pattern that shows how society and culture can shift and grow. Or just the opposite as well. Yet because we are all so connected nowadays through the internet, and television, we learn so much more about different countries and cultures. This enables us to learn and share, to evolve or deny, depending on the view and perspective we hold. Is it, accordingly, you believe it will be easy to integrate?
Does it hold ideas that do not feel accordingly, we can reject them. It is also what appeals to you, resonates from within, the way the energy makes you feel. If it is a negative emotion, it will also start a string of inner reactions within. It is only through our positive reaction, we can embrace something that is new to us yet feels at home or is inviting enough to change certain ideas and perceptions.
And so, it is with the way we are perceiving the death of a loved one. Can we celebrate the life of the deceased, or is the sorrow and pain of the loss too heavy to do so? Do we have to choose between both, or is it one of the same coins we find within our hearts? I know there is a point within, that enables me to choose the love and the joy I have received more than the pain and sorrow I can feel at the same time.
It gives me pleasure and joy instead of this painful, heartbreaking sensation at times. One is not without the other, as a complementary piece that keeps the balance if both parts are equal. Because that is the tricky part. For most of us, the balance is gone between those two. Not completely, yet the way we can manage tricky situations, will ask more from us through the way we experience loss.
Our emotional settings in dealing with loss are often connected to our own sense of being independent. If we are relying a lot on other people to be taken care of, the balance between the two will often tend to go to the pain and sorrow side of the coin. It is often triggered by our childhood experiences or the challenges we have come across that demand a lot from our self-worth and self-love.
The wounded part within, we will react to it in a way the sorrow and pain over loss feel stronger. Sometimes it is even possible, that grief and mourning are only experienced that way. It is a challenge to find a way that enables us to rejoice again and connect with the love there was in the first place. The more you can relate to the sensation of the love that has been shared, the more you can connect with the counterpart of rejoicing and celebrating the lifetime experience.
The way your relationship is experienced will have a great say in the outcome as well. Every loving relationship will leave a trail of memories to be cherished and loved. If a relationship has been nourishing and enabling you to grow and expand to be the best of yourself, then you have a heart filled with love. The more you can relate to your inner treasure room, the more you will be able to shift from pain and sorrow into the joy and gratitude that comes with it.
The celebration of someone's life is also connected with the love and expression they left behind. Sometimes it is easy to just be grateful and see how many hearts have been touched by someone dear. Other times it will take more effort when the emotions of sorrow and pain are coming to the surface again. Then it is about missing the warm embrace, the laughter together and the knowledge it will never be the same way again.
That is the key, so to speak. The way we can manage changes in our lives is also significant for the way we are able to deal with the new experiences that await us. Every ending turns into a new beginning. We must be ready and willing to let go of the old way to step into a new way of living and perceive our own lives again. Same coin, same connection, different sides to it.
At one point in time, to regain your inner balance again, life will challenge you to decide and make a step forward. Stepping out of the rod you are in. The deeper you will sit, the more challenging it will be to step out of this hole you have been digging for yourself. Then the sense of being safe will turn into a sense of being trapped. You then have a choice to make. Is it time to let go of the past and find your inner joy and happiness again, or are you clinging on to the memories that keep you stuck?
To let the energy flow and enable yourself again to make the choice to feel alive and happy, you can connect again within your inner heart space. The coin that holds both energies can be in harmony and balance, it only needs nourishment from within as a gift to yourself. Mourning is part of the process, as is the celebration of someone's life to pay it respect and acknowledgment.
We all want to be remembered for the way we walked through life. We all want it to be a good memory and of significance. What better way is there if we celebrate the lives of those who are leaving this material world before we do.
What better way is there than to celebrate their lives? By doing so, we can feel the loving connection, the love that is filling our hearts and our cells. We are coming alive by allowing this to happen, for we are giving this gift to ourselves as well.
One coin, two sides, balancing with each other, keeping the energy flowing again. It is a profound gift to receive as well as to share, as well for those who have passed over as well as the ones who are still here in this world. Even if you do not believe in life after death, even if you do not believe in any religion.
There is this precious gift to receive and share. It will always benefit both if you can choose the way you want to celebrate the life of a loved one. It will create increased balance within our hearts between the strongly felt emotions of sorrow and pain, as well as the joyous and happy ones that are so much part of it all.
And so, it will be.
High Self @RheaDopmeijer ©
Heartfelt Messages 31-10-2016
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