In pursuing romance, we often go through a rollercoaster ride of emotional reactions such as excitement, shock, and sometimes even disgust when meeting new people. Though we may barely know most people we meet, we express a variety of internal reactions and dialogue. The emotional reactions we experience upon meeting someone new can lay out the foundation for what may happen in the future,
Our reactions to others can be triggered by areas in our past, such as:
1. Most people remind us of someone in our past that created an emotional imprint
2. our unconscious recognizes patterns and activates a gut reaction before our logical mind can decipher analytical information.
3. Our emotional connections often start as triggers that ignite a spark, which we often notice intuitively.
When it comes to connecting, many of us often misread the signs of interest in the other person and either avoid a potential love connection or dart in without thinking. It is helpful to learn the difference between a possible relationship or just a passing encounter. Here are some tips on what you can do:
- Take time to get to know the individual since the initial reaction might just be old memories being triggered
- Simply talk to the person to avoid making stories in our head about them
- Keep in mind different behaviors do activate hidden memories that will remind us of people we once liked or disliked
- When an individual expresses interest in getting to know you, take your time in getting to know them; being attracted to someone does not mean they are ready or suitable for us
- Remember, we often categorize people on how we see them rather than how they are.
- Know that a spark can grow into something meaningful, but you must be honest, transparent, and clear about what you want to cultivate a healthy connection. In other words, don't play games
- If you are still unsure, continue to spend time with the person so that you can decipher their intentions and availability.
A potential love connection can be remarkable, but we can remain stuck in how we see them or have one-sided desires if we do not communicate our romantic interests. We may uncover that the love spark is only one-way, but on the other hand, it is better to know how someone feels than to spend our time fantasizing about a potential love story that never comes to fruition.
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