Counter-Acting Trauma Lies

Don't Lose Hope

May 15

Below are some common trauma lies, and some ideas on how to reframe these thoughts so they're more in line with reality.

1. The LIE: "There is no-one who is safe. There is no-one I can trust. I need to look out for myself – for I can only trust myself."

The TRUTH: There are people in this world who are trustworthy and safe. They won't deceive you. They won't gaslight you. They won't manipulate me. They won't lie to you. With these individuals 'what you see is what you get.' The majority of people don't want to hurt or harm you.

2. The LIE: "I need to keep my guard up in order to be safe. I can't ever risk being open, or being vulnerable, again."

The TRUTH: You will likely be more cautious if you've been traumatized, but you can learn to trust your instincts, and to be more vulnerable, with people who have shown you they are trustworthy and safe.

3. The LIE: "I need to stay alert, and be hyper-vigilant."

The TRUTH: You will wear yourself out if you stay on high alert. Yes, you need to be aware of what is happening around you, but there are numerous situations where it's OK to relax.

4. The LIE: "Sleeping isn't safe as I can't protect myself."

The TRUTH: The trauma's in the past. It is over. You survived. It is healthy to sleep, and to renew your strength.

5. The LIE: "Don't be deceived: Things are never what they seem."

The TRUTH: There will always be some tricksters and a few manipulators. But in most situations, there are no hidden agendas, and peoples' intentions are genuine and sincere.

6. The LIE: "I can't trust my instincts or my intuition."

The TRUTH: We can learn how to listen to our bodies again, and to notice those small clues that say 'we need to be on guard.' Your body and your brain are finely-tuned to pick up signs. With patience and with time you can trust yourself again. And it is wise and safe to choose to trust yourself.

7. The LIE: "I'm never going to recover, and live a normal life again."

The TRUTH: Recovery is a journey - and it isn't a straight road. You'lI have good times; you'll have bad times. And it's going to take time. The bad times are less frequent, and less scary, than before. You can see you're making progress. You're not in the same place."

"It's okay if you thought you were over it but it hits you all over again. It's okay to fall apart even after you thought you had it under control. You are not weak. Healing is messy. There is no timeline for healing."

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