[New post] Swift or slow – define your Rhythm

rheadopmeijer posted: " Swift or Slow – De­fine Your Rhythm The theme of to­day is about the re­al­iza­tion that I am find­ing my own rhythm in a whole new way. Ever since my birth, I am as we all are fol­low­ing the rhythm of our par­ents, school, jobs as well the rhyth" Swift or slow – define your Rhythm rheadopmeijer Apr 29 Swift or Slow – De­fine Your Rhythm The theme of to­day is about the re­al­iza­tion that I am find­ing my own rhythm in a whole new way. Ever since my birth, I am as we all are fol­low­ing the rhythm of our par­ents, school, jobs as well the rhythms of the sea­son. Image by Rebekka D from Pixabay This may be a lot dif­fer­ent for a lot of peo­ple, de­pend­ing on where you are grow­ing up. Ei­ther in a small coun­try vil­lage, or a big city. Or de­pend­ing on your lo­ca­tion on our planet, north or south, east or west.  A lot of our rhythm is been in­flu­enced by our cur­rent po­si­tion. Yet that's not the in­ter­nal rhythm of our own unique per­sonal be­ing. I have been fol­low­ing the pace of all the dif­fer­ent in­flu­ences in my life. Meet­ing my love and get­ting mar­ried early, we were tuned into each other. Both hav­ing a job, dif­fer­ent hob­bies and sports ac­tiv­i­ties as well were mostly the guide­lines for our time sched­ules as well. One be­ing an early morn­ing bird, the other one a late night player. So we had to find some kind of mid­dle in our daily life. When we were blessed with kids, be­com­ing par­ents had an­other ma­jor in­flu­ence of our day to day rhythm. Through my train­ing work­ing with en­ergy, I learned the im­por­tance of tun­ing into my own in­ter­nal rhythm as well.  Much needed be­ing an em­path, be­cause it could be pretty de­mand­ing be­ing around a lot of peo­ple at work. The jobs I had were teach­ers as well, to do the things in my own way, in my own pace so to speak. Be­cause as long as I was in tune with it, I would be able to cre­ate and be pro­duc­tive to the best of my abil­i­ties. Rais­ing kids do that as well, be­ing the guru to teach you your own in­se­cu­ri­ties as well qual­i­ties. They chal­lenge you in so many ways, the im­por­tance to stay in the mo­ment. Even phys­i­cally chal­lenged be­cause of the need of sleep, the bal­ance be­tween be­ing busy and hav­ing a re­laxed time just for me. It was a jour­ney so far with ups and downs. When­ever I lost the con­nec­tion with my own rhythm, I would feel fa­tigue or get ill to the point I re­ally hit rock bot­tom when I was in my early 40ies.  My body crashed and it was a way of show­ing me as well the im­por­tance of my own abil­ity and pace. I was al­ways ea­ger to do the best, be the best I could be in any kind of sit­u­a­tion. Yet it came to a point I re­ally ig­nored all the stop signs, till my body said stop. It was a deep process of ac­knowl­edg­ing the way I func­tion to be ben­e­fi­cial for my­self. Even if it meant I had to say no to in­vites. Or take time to rest dur­ing the day­time, just be­cause my body needed the sleep. It was con­fronting as well con­firm­ing at the same time, the par­a­digm of learn­ing what is good for you against your own bet­ter know­ing.  It brought me down to the ba­sics, tak­ing baby steps in or­der to be able to deal with a day to day rou­tine. Need­less to say, the most chal­leng­ing thing was not to be able to be the par­ent and the part­ner I was aim­ing for. My own heal­ing process de­manded to be fully fo­cused on my in­ner com­pass, trust­ing the body to know what to do and how My rhythm at that time was on a low, as low as it could pos­si­bly be. It took years for me to re­gain phys­i­cal strength as well the heal­ing of my emo­tional bat­tles. The vul­ner­a­bil­ity that came with it, the ac­cep­tance there was a limit to my pos­si­bil­ity to func­tion. It also taught me to trust my body and its sig­nals, the way it was there for me as well to show my traps and be the best teacher I could ever wish for.  Dur­ing these years our pat­tern as part­ners and be­ing a par­ent changed, as did it has its ef­fect on our re­la­tion­ships and friend­ships around me. Af­ter all these train­ing ses­sions I had with my phys­i­cal part­ner as well my emo­tional one, it fi­nally re­sulted in a more bal­anced way of deal­ing with the en­ergy of my be­ing. In every way it taught me how im­por­tant it is to lis­ten to the sig­nals of our body, our emo­tions, our gut feel­ings es­pe­cially. What also mat­tered is the way I al­ways had to ad­just to the needs of my loved ones around me. As they had to ad­just to me as well, it changed a lot in our in­ter­ac­tions. So here I am now, years later and for the first time on my own.  No need to ad­just to oth­ers around me ex­cept, of course, my fam­ily, my kids and grandkids. Yet, in my day to day life, af­ter my love made his tran­si­tion al­most 2 years ago, I re­al­ized to­day how long it took me to ad­just again. Only this time, to my in­ner rhythm, which took me by sur­prise ac­tu­ally how it grad­u­ally over the past 2 years grew on me.  Of course, there are mo­ments I have to ad­just to the world around me. When I have ap­point­ments to make, babysit­ting our grand­daugh­ter for ex­am­ple. Yet to­day it be­came crys­tal clear, I do the things in my own pace and fol­low­ing my own rhythm. Do­ing what makes me feel happy and en­joy­ing not do­ing any­thing. Just be­cause I can.  What keeps me mov­ing is the in­ter­nal pushes to re­flect, to take a nap, to find some re­lax­ation dur­ing med­i­ta­tions, tun­ing in with the mes­sages with­out my head­set on be­cause it's not needed. It is also a kind of mind­ful­ness to go with the flow of what­ever comes up and act on it. How I want to live my life in the mo­ment, is not be­ing self­ish, it is about tak­ing care of myself. To learn to fol­low my own in­ter­nal rhythm, it all came down to self-love, as well lis­ten­ing to the mes­sages I re­ceive through my phys­i­cal, emo­tional, men­tal as well etheric bod­ies. It is al­ways con­nected with the way it makes me feel. So to be in tune with my in­ner drum, I only have to fol­low my own rhythm. It has to do with my own bound­aries.  To know when some­thing works for me, ben­e­fits me and keeps me healthy, grounded as well happy with myself. It's a bless­ing to me over these past few years to see how I grad­u­ally re­al­ized my own pace and feel con­nected with it in so many ways. We all have our own ways to learn, through our own in­ter­nal com­pass. To­day I re­al­ized the lessons have paid off. In a lov­ing con­nec­tion to my­self. 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