Joanne A posted: " Living with people is something we've all done at some point, starting at childhood with our family, or in a foster home. But this time, I'm not talking about living with family members.I'm talking about friends, acquaintances, or sometimes strangers.At "
Living with people is something we've all done at some point, starting at childhood with our family, or in a foster home. But this time, I'm not talking about living with family members. I'm talking about friends, acquaintances, or sometimes strangers.
At certain times, you'd have to live with people that aren't your immediate family members - maybe you're crashing at a friend's place, just moving in with your boyfriend, or living in a dormitory with other students, in a commune or something similar.
I'm gonna be a hundred percent real with you here: living with people can get hard, especially if you're an introvert. But it also has its advantages.
PROS
I'm gonna start with the pros, because you know, positivity! I've searched through my mind, going through all the moments I've lived with people, to gather all the good points. It was not easy, the bad parts seemed to stand out more.
Friendship
Having a roommate, or roommates, is an instant way of making a friend, especially if you're the type that doesn't go out much. You get a friend handed to you on a platter, and you don't have to make as much effort to establish a bond, because y'all already live together.
You get to have fun together and share a lot of moments together, that feels really great. Except, of course, you get a little devil of a roomie and it ruins your life. Then you should really try to move, if that's possible.
Ooh, I love this one. You guys get to share all those duties and that just reduces the workload. If you hate cleaning, but live with someone who loves to clean and doesn't mind doing it, that's like a heaven-sent blessing.
It also applies to money (in some cases). If you're both bringing in money to deal with domestic needs, then the strain on one person is reduced.
Someone To Look Out For You
Isn't it so sweet and soothing, to have someone call you at night when you're out late, just to make sure you're okay? It's beautiful.
Or when you're so tired that you fall asleep with food on the fire (it happens to the best of us), or the TV playing. There'll be someone to turn off the fire/TV and cover you with a blanket (if they're nice like me). Or at least, yank you awake and make you go check on the food so you don't set the place on fire. Sometimes, it may something as little as plugging in your phone when you forget to.
This is probably the best part of living with someone, knowing there's a shoulder to cry on, and that someone has your back when you need them to. This is more effective when y'all have gone past the awkward phase and established that friendship bond.
I'm sure there are more advantages to living with people, so if you can think of more, be sure to share them in the comments!!
CONS
Down to the negativities. I can pick a lot of these, because bad events always seem to stand out in our memory than the good ones. However, I'd stick to a few, so this doesn't get too long and tiresome.
Disregard For Boundaries
Oh gosh, let me think of a nice way to put this - there are people who, for some reason, are not emotionally developed enough to know that you cannot just infringe on personal boundaries. They simply do not understand the concept of personal space.
We all are expected to set boundaries for people in our lives, these boundaries help to clearly define what we want and don't want in our everyday lives. For instance, you cannot make such jokes/say such things around me. Or, you cannot borrow my jewellery without letting me know.
These are examples of boundaries, clearly stated and defined. Unfortunately, some people just don't know that they're supposed to adhere to them. I really don't understand why people do that, when you've openly and politely communicated these things to them.
Partner For Everything
This may not be an issue to some, but it sure is to me. There are certain people who have a misconception that if y'all live together, you have to do everything together.
If you're going out, you have to go with them. If you're eating, you eat with them. If you want to take a shower, they want to do that with you too. This also extends to your belongings. They begin to wear your clothes, shoes, socks, use your wigs, and even some of your personal belongings (eg towel, soap, sponge). They want a level of closeness that cannot even be attained with marriage, it baffles me.
Sharing must happen when you live with someone, but I don't have to share everything with you. No, sir.
Habits That Irk You
When you live with someone, you get the opportunity to observe their hidden habits and traits, up close. That's not always a privilege. You may find out that that friend of yours you've always known and admired has some pretty undesirable characters.
Maybe they leave hair in the shower, or they never use a coaster when drinking tea. They may like to practice the piano at 4am, or they use all the toilet paper and forget to replace it.
There things can get rather burdensome, but you'd just have to cope with it. It is what it is.
Constant Consideration
A little bit of your freedom is taken away when you find yourself sharing a personal space with other people. You develop this little voice inside you that is constantly asking, "Are you sure this is not bothering so-and-so person(s)?"
You'd have to adapt to their needs as they do to yours. You'll have to agree what temperature is preferable, what time to eat, when one must not be disturbed and so on. It teaches you to be considerate and caring, but it gets really tiring.
Sometimes you just wanna say "screw it" and play your music so loud at 2am. No you cannot do that.
This is when it really means trouble. Sometimes you you may end up living with someone you really don't get along with. Like, at all. You're so different, and not in a way that you can accommodate, or ecen tolerate each other.
When this happens, it could really be a problem. Sure when people are living together, there's bound to be misunderstanding, that's normal. What's not normal is so much misunderstanding that living in your own home becomes a drag cause you just cannot STAND your roommate(s) Y'all are therefore, incompatible, and if it's in your power, make plans to move out of such environment. It can get hurtful.
That's all for the disadvantages. Of course, there are more of them, so if you can think of anyone, be sure to share them in the comments section. I want to know!
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). Or at least, yank you awake and make you go check on the food so you don't set the place on fire.
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