The Lady in Red posted: " For a long time I had no idea the word Simp existed. And here I am, I want to explain why Simp differ from people who are actually in love. If you didn't know… Simp is an Internet slang term describing someone who shows excessive sympathy an"
For a long time I had no idea the word Simp existed.
And here I am, I want to explain why Simp differ from people who are actually in love.
If you didn't know…
Simp is an Internet slang term describing someone who shows excessive sympathy and attention toward another person, typically someone who does not reciprocate the same feelings, in order to win their affection. This is usually done in pursuit of a sexual relationship.
I had a hand full of experience with Simps. And here is my observation.
Their genuineness is always absent. A women is treated like a trophy or a prize to be won.
If anyone remembers Gunther from friends. He is always in that zone without ever being in that zone.
If any traits match you. You gotta stop !!
Gunther buys Rachel's cat which looks like a demon. He is ready to sell his apartment for her to stay. He hires her even though she is not a good waitress. He hires Joey because Rachel says.
It goes to show that one doesn't have self respect at all. There is a huge difference between loving someone with dedication and trampling on your self respect to show it.
The two things are worlds apart and they don't need to be done.
I used to think that a man calls another person a simp. My friend called such people "मिठ्ठा" it translates to sweet while actually means showcasing false kindness.
And most times it is accurate. I am annoyed at the part where the 'Nice Guy' is always fawning over a girl whom he can't have. Nice doesn't make the women an object for one to 'Have'. Worst person example is from a kdrama.
In that drama Gu Jun Pyo is a wealthy guy who loves bullying the girl he likes. How disturbing. She is bullied from day 1 and his expectations is that this is love and she should love him. The drama going in that direction is the world selling us toxic love.
I seriously want to say that at times I have watched movies blindly and never understood until someone explained it to me.
In 500 Hundred days of Summer I thought summer was bad. After watching it and arguing I rewatched it. I watched his friends try to unveil the bullshit unrealistic idea he has about her. He limits himself from actually knowing her.
If a girl is not interested in you. If she says she is not interested in you. Believe her!!
He is just not that into you.
I love the fact that I have met a lots of people they have taught me something. I have met even arseholes who think its okay to string along. There is a difference between a girl being nice to everyone because she is nice and being actually interested.
Girls version is very simple. Many girls are shy, they like to be courted and today's generation knows zero of courting and a lot about swiping. That is why no one gets to attain a healthy loving relationship.
Lets go to Ross
Ross comes across as a sweet guy but he is not. He is further from that. He constantly cribs and whines about others and never wonders what he did wrong. Rachel and Ross both break up with others around the same time. Rachel flees her wedding, ross gets divorced. Rachel is not happy but we don't see her whining all the time or mopping. She is struggling in her own dilemma about life. Ross always wants to be the centre of attention. We get to come back and forth from all of his friends that he is simping her constantly. He asks Rachel saying "would she like to go on a date sometime". She said yes but he never actually asks her.
He keeps thinking his right moments are stolen while in fact it is that he thinks of her a trophy to be earned and not someone he loves. In a lot of flashbacks he is shown to creepily stare at Rachel or try to ask her out. Honestly he looks like a pedophile with his moustache and hair.
Each times Rachel does something which remotely says she likes him in true sense he fails to actually reciprocate.
When he is with her he treats her badly. He always tries to run his insecurities and think Rachel will cheat on him. She gets overwhelmed by him constantly humiliating her while she is trying to work. She "has a break" "he has a breakup". The next thing he does is sleep with the first random girl he sees. That's not love in any sense. Just because he got ready to take her to prom and felt bad when her date arrived. He didn't earn her in anyway! He cheated on many women on and off be it Rachel, Julie and many more.
Rachel has the worst taste in men but I would say that worst men actually approach her. She has to pick someone out of the worse.
He never shows her respect. When he breaks up on the beach house. She asks him to take responsibility and accountability. He not only doesn't he just laughs it off.
What is the difference between Joey and Ross really? They both behave the same towards all women. Joey falls in love with Rachel we can see the difference in dynamic. He respects her and cares about her. When he tells her so, she reciprocated. The ending is just bad writing. When they are secretly dating Joey gives up because Ross isn't mature. Even though he has moved on he doesn't want his prized possession with anyone else. She rather be single he thinks.
Rachel after break or breaking up feels sad. She has excuse to sleep with Mark but she doesn't. She doesn't need to be low or has the need to be that.
Being Simp is destructive. I remember this trashy feeling coming from a man saying he is a simp to his wife just because he respects her and loves her. I disagree to that.
Love is different. Each time Ross is hurt he stabs Rachel million times.
Lets go to Halpart now.
Jim and Pamela, the two office gossipers and pranksters. They have this vibe with them which is beautifully captured by the camera.
When Pam is stupid to be with Roy. We can see at times why Jim is different. In many episodes, Michael or Andy suggest that they like women for sex. Jim likes Pam for her personality. The way she is, thats the epic difference. Everyone ain't in it for sex. For such people that comes in the relationship but it is not the only part of the relationship.
When Jim's heart is crushing he takes it for a long time. After feeling like it's now or never he confesses to Pam before her "wedding". It is later told by Pam that she called it off because of Jim.
When Pam wants something meaningful, Roy forgets and instead tells he to wait for the awesome sex she will have as her gift.
When Pam and Jim are broken up. He never really talks shit about her. He always loves her. He later dates Karen but he admits to the fact that he is with her and not Pam. Pam feels jealous from time to time. Jim only breaks up with Karen after realising what Pam means to Jim.
When Dwight is hurting so badly because of Angela. Jim being the person who hates Dwight still can't see him in pain goes and talks about his own pain just to help him through. He realises how much he loves her.
This is reciprocated by Pam, better late then never. She overcomes her own insecurities and problems and learns to accept the love she deserves. Jim and Pam in relationship aren't afraid to choose different sides and still thrive in relationship.
You get to see the same dynamic with Chandler and Monica. They were friends for years, Chandler always have issues with committing in a relationship. The truth is Chandler comes long towards his personal growth. He loves Monica and it never fades away. Ross and Rachel were like pins and needles. Rachel grew up a lot, we were shown old rich brat she was in few flashbacks but that version is different from what she is later. She grows up a lot, she loves Ross but he doesn't love her. No he doesn't.How much shall relationship ache?
Simp criteria's
Do you walk all over your self respect to get what she wants but it's not what you really want inside.
Do you do things for her when she has never asked to do it.
Does your tone changes when a pretty girl is around?
Do you behave absurdly or do grand gestures without ever being in a relationship with that girl?
Trying to impress all the ladies for no reason.
When someone says No and you try more because No means Yes? No means No! Don't make her uncomfortable.
Behaving like a simp puts her in a position to disrespect you.
Over-crossing her boundaries.
Lets put Hal from Megamind to explain you what not to be.
How to not be a Simp.
Practice respecting women, don't cross boundaries unnecessarily,
Don't dress to impress, meaning don't try to flaunt or sell yourself.
If she says no, Move On!
If you were in a relationship but aren't anymore and she doesn't want to be around you. Respect that and walk towards your own life.
Respecting a women doesn't necessarily mean you agree with her on everything. Respecting her means you genuinely do even when you have differences.
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