Talk to me about validation
What is it about validation, and why do we need it so much to be valued? I've been puzzling over this topic for a while because it seems to be a central core issue in every encounter we have. We are all desperate for this validation for the things we do, and to hear or see that we matter in the way we live our daily lives or act at every stage of life.
May it be like the parent you are to your children, the wife or husband to your partner, the child of his mother and father, the children in their teacher's class, and the monks in the temple of the divine well itself. Or are we all looking for the same thing and looking for it is forgotten. We can only achieve true and honest trust in our hearts and souls.
We are mirror reflections of each other, and we learn through duality that we are different, separate, individuals. Furthermore, we also learn how to behave correctly through this process as we are taught by society, parents, culture, teachers, and group dynamics.
It is because of the differences between us that we try to compete, to excel, and to be excellent, or sometimes just the opposite, the paradox that lives and lives in our own experiences of being apart and longing for unity and unity.
This is a paradox that we find in every aspect of our lives, for we are both the teacher and the student, we are both the parent and the child, and we are both the believer and the non-believer. So, what are we looking for on our journey?
No matter what stage of our lives we are in, as a toddler, teens, young adults, or elders, we all need to know and feel in some way that we are loved, valued, and approved, and we need to know this through the people we love. As well as society, our manager, our boss, our colleague, our colleague, and also according to the norms of our cultures that paint the picture, so to speak.
We gradually gain confidence and self-respect, or we become more and more oppressed by violence and fear, violated and robbed of self-love and self-awareness, as well as the core knowledge that you are worthy to exist and live.
There are so many ways to become alert and awake to our own true and unique signature that we express every day in our daily lives. Yet it all boils down to one essence that we desire and that is validated. First, the need for validation from the outside world we live in and the more we learn and grow.
To become this individual worth living and being loved, we begin to recognize that we are not alone in this process, and we all want to be loved in the same unconditional way. So maybe we place this Love outside ourselves first,
There will come a time when you will feel the little flame of love igniting in your own heart, and this little spark will also let you know that love also comes from your heart for yourself as well. When we come to this realization, we may all seem different and unique as individuals.
We also learn that we are also a great creation of the same spark that lights up in every heart, and we are also able within this paradoxical way of life to see this together. By reflecting and mirroring we bring in validation, perhaps not always consciously, but by loving each other we create validation.
Because validation is the acknowledgment. The divine way of showing and saying, you're okay, you're doing great, you did great, I see you, I hear you. I understand what you're saying, I believe you, and then I believe in you as the greatest affirmation we can give the other person.
By doing this the recognition also starts for us to see what the other person reflects as something we know, we also own ourselves. Then the time has come to be able to tell yourself I love you; I know you; I respect you, and we share this with everyone else around us at the same time.
Because therein lies the paradox of validation. The more light and love we allow knowing, understanding, and validate within ourselves, the more we can also share with each other. Validation is the core of Know Your Self.
And so it will happen.
High Self Rhea Dopmeijer ©
Heartfelt Messages,2-17-2015
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