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"What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself."
—Abraham Maslow
Isn't this a conclusion of a bizarre tangent, one might ask? I choose to respond with a "no" and "yes". Allow me to elaborate. We can all agree that we have a proclivity to a particular pattern of living. At times, we may invalidate another person's thoughts and ideas simply due to the fact that we think we know better. We believe we are set for life. What if that train of thought isn't as overarching as we had hoped for? What if, through the tendrils of time, we have failed to pinpoint our own blind spots? What if we are the creators of our own misery? Care to subscribe to this possibility?
How does one know exactly what they want? Where do we assimilate this information from? How do we know what is best for ourselves? In reality, we actually don't. These redundant assumptions begin to drape a carpet of fog around our eyes. With life rotating our worlds into a transpose, we are left giddy with delirium. We start to dissect every decision and choice made, nitpicking its existence in the first place. We delimit what serves us best. It is this defining mindset that sets the blazing fire in our lives. A cardinal shift emerges, nudging us back to our intended positions in this lifetime.
In essence, we are blindfolded by our own set of biased beliefs and practices. The results convey major markers of a serious nature, yet we continue to submerge ourselves deeper into the swirling depths of melancholy. It should be true because we have been taught likewise and have idealised it into reality. We decide we are capable of altering the outcome come what may because this is the only right way of doing things. However, these very highlighted blunders and catastrophes veer us onto meaningful roads. By understanding what causes us pain and destruction can we begin to appreciate love and stability. Experiencing volatile times and aching plights helps us to recognise peaceful and serene moments. We need to dance with madness in order to lie comfortably with sanity.
My experiences have taught me that I knew nothing of what I wanted. They were fragments of makeshift beliefs and practices that we handed down for generations to come. Mere desert mirages. This cyclical dogma prevailing in societies disfigured the way I viewed people and situations. I thought I had enough evidence to make choices that were best known to me. Although the mounting torment created havoc at that fateful point in my life, I am grateful for the position that I am in today. Not to dismiss the crippling effect it had on me — everything experienced was as real as it gets. But the clarity brought forth by the swooping tides changed my course in a grandiose manner.
It is because of my experiences that I am able to recognise similar patterns and cycles that trigger a sense of familiarity. When you are at the mercy of untested theories, you succumb to failure almost instantly. Until and unless you have explored the latitudes that stretch beyond eye range, can you gauge for yourself what works best for the situation. You need to wrestle with the sticky mud in order to better appreciate cleanliness. Make poor choices and decisions, but learn from them. Don't stay stuck and defeated. It is these very overlooked disasters that bring about the radical change that is going to benefit your life. Your bad experiences are going to be the base for the best ones you are yet to encounter.
You need to go through a toxic friendship and/or relationship in order to recognise and settle for a healthy one. You need to fail a test or an exam in order to recognise the value it could have offered. You need to come in last in a race in order to understand the fruits of hard work and labour. You need to lose out on a job opportunity in order to reach the highest potential of yourself. The faster you understand this, the closer you stand to winning, even against the odds. You are planted in opportune situations that are destined to bring you much abundance. With a growth mindset, you inculcate habits and practices that serve your highest good. Because everything that you know you don't want teaches you exactly what you want out of this life.
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